justme1961
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Reged: 03/11/08
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I posted this about a month ago under Spousal Support
"Been divorced 4 years...
I have custody of our 2 children 14 & 17. Last year my ex tried to get custody. Due to a juvenile issue with the 14 year old, he got temporary custody. That lasted 3 months, then he dropped the motion for custody and dropped my child of in my driveway and drove off. 17 year old never wanted to live with him. Child support was adjust when he first got custody-I am still fighting to get it back to where it should be-went to court 4 months ago for that. He makes 3 times as much as I do.
So here are my gripes-
1. He is in contempt for non-payment of alimony-for the third time. He currently owes me for 7 months.
2. He has NEVER paid his share of ANY extraordinary expenses, as stated in our divorce decree.
3. He has not spent a significant amount of time with the 14YO in months-the 17YO wants nothing to do with him.
4. The court ordered him to provide my lawyer with documentation of his income by last month. He never did.
5. Last month he stopped paying child support at all.
I am totally frustrated by his lack of cooperation, and the court does NOTHING to reprimand him. He went into court with a bid sob story about how he bought a huge house to accommodate all of the children (our 2 plus his new wife's 3(wife #4)). Well he foreclosed on that house 3 months ago after living there less than a year. I found out he had 100% financing on it, so he just walked away from it. (Why he had 100% financing is beyond me-I paid him over $40,000 for his share of the equity in our house when we divorced.)
I know he is hiding money outside the US (he travels abroad frequently). I was told so by his wife #3-who lives in a foreign country. She told me he deliberately hid money so he would not have to pay child support on it.
Now to top it off, my lawyer won't return my calls.
I am just so tired of the battle. "
Okay, so my lawyer finally got off her butt and filed a HUGE motion for contempt for non-payment of child support, alimony, extraordinary/medical expenses and for not complying with the court's order for providing his income documentation. Plus she also put in for legal fees. So, it looked like justice would finally be served. Until yesterday, when I found out he lost his job a few weeks ago. ARGH!!!
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nucleus
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Reged: 04/02/08
Posts: 43
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are we married to same man? LOL
anyway i don't know what to tell you, it sounds like you are doing all that you can do. unfortunately for a lot of us we have to somehow accept the fact that we are probably not going going to get any financial help from our X. but i sure know what you are going thru....hang in there!
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ttina
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Reged: 02/28/08
Posts: 398
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been there... done that... We have our nex court date on 5/13.... This will be the third year we are doing this... every 3-4 months for non compliance..... He's 9400+ in arears. Welcome to the merry go round.... Try no to get sick.
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nucleus
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Reged: 04/02/08
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hey ttina...question...does everytime you go to court for back child support cost you money? in florida i hear that i can get it done thru the child support agency and then they take care of it for you, but i am still new to all this and don't have a clue how to go about anything.
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ttina
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Reged: 02/28/08
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Nope. It is filed through CSE. That is a state agency. I paid a 25.00 registration fee when I enrolled (I knew who/where the father was/lived) and after the ex pays the first 500.00 per year they take out 25.00 a year for administrative fees. In order to file for a court date, ex must be three months or 1500.00 ( I think) in arears and not have made a payment in thirty days. That is in my state. Here is the link for Florida:
http://home.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user
It is really irritating to have to miss work to go to court only to have ex pay the minimum when the judge says... pay or go to jail. Get this... My son has a field trip to the coast... science study... and part of that is a boat ride and deep sea fishing. The cost of the field trip is 60.00 for son. Son wants dad to go (no problem from me). Ex has son ask me to pay his chaperone fee..... ha ha ha ha ha... But what wasn't funny was trying to explain to a 14yo boy that I wouldn't put any money up for someone who has repeatedly "promised to pay me back" without expressing negative comments.... that was a delicate conversation.
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nucleus
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for some reason i can't get the link to work.
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ttina
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Reged: 02/28/08
Posts: 398
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apparently I pasred the wrong thing... the bain of multitasking....
http://dor.myflorida.com/dor/childsupport/
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