whippoorwilllane
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Well, I have several issues here. First, we are not divorced and have not filed yet. We have only been married a year and a half. He hasn't seen our 7 month old daughter in 3 months, but then he states it's because I won't let him see her. We have set up several different times for him to see her and he dissapears for days...but still uses the same excuse..IT'S MY FAULT. He says I should have called when he didn't show. I did. Then he says he doesn't want me around to see her. And so he'll just wait until the judge orders something. He has 3 other kids, and could care less about this one. I take 100% care of her, daycare, med. insurance, EVERYTHING. Plus, before he left, and the two years we lived together, I paid almost all of the bills, including child support and med ins for the other 3. He moved out for me to beg him back maybe??? We bought a house (I bought the house, loan in my name...but he's on the deed, TX...community property state.) He never moved in, lives with his mom. And he won't get a job. I know for a fact he has turned several down...why?? What does he have up his sleeve? I heard through the grapevine that he intends to try and get spousal support...I make six figures, he makes squat!! Is this even possible??? He is not disabled in any way. I am the one who pays the house note, my car note, all childcare expenses, his car insurance STILL, and all other living expenses that I have. I just realized he took my tax returns when he moved out. He says that I got everything I wanted here...house, furniture, our baby, etc. I PAID FOR ALL!! I had a house before we got married and made the same $ then too. So my question is does he have a leg to stand on with the spousal support? My next is if we have been seperated since January, is he entitled to any of my income, equity in home, etc. earned after that date? And he won't give up his parental rights, but he could care less about her. If he has no job, no home, and can't pay child support or provide ANYTHING for her, what type of visitation will he get? Why should he get any?? AND he drives a brand new $30k truck he financed 6 months ago by stating that he owned his own company and made $100k a year!!! There are so many issues here and his mom (his driving force) is so cruel...and she can talk him into doing things to people just to be hurtful even though it won't gain him anything!! He's begging me to go file and I can't figure out why...I know he's up to something, but what??!!
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chatter box
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sorry your here and sorry I do not have more time right this minute but I will get back to everything.
He has a right to she his daughter without you and will get it in court. You need let it happen. If your worried that he can't take care of diapers or something then show him how to do it.
He will not get support from you and even if he doesn't work the court can and will still order that he pay child support based on minimum wage + medical and maybe daycare.
If you do not let him see is daughter you better have something from a doctor stating a reason why or it will look negativly on you.
I'll get to the rest as soon as I can.
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faith4two
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Texas Family Law Code website: http://tlo2.tlc.state.tx.us/statutes/fa.toc.htm
Spousal support is applicable in long term marriages. A marriage is considered "long term" at/around the 10 year mark.
You might look into abandonment as an option. I don't have much experience with this, but I've found Texas Family Law to be fairly clear on definitions of such.
Do your homework... dig into the Family Law Code, and realize that what feels like panic right this moment is probably a fear of the unknown than a reason to truly panic. The time spent reading up and familiarizing yourself with Texas Family Law will also expedite conversations you might have with an attorney because you've come into the initial consultation PREPARED.
Based on your post (there's always more than one side to a story), you don't have much to worry over....
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chatter box
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faith is right, about the fear of the unknown. The money you put into the house before you got married is yours if you can prove it was your money. Everything you had before you got married, that you can prove, is yours. Now for the bad part. Everthing you invested in or bought after you married is half his. He will get state standerd visitation unless he is abusive. The child support paid or not has nothing to do with visits. Remember that always. Visitation varies depending on distance. I think you were married less then 10 years so there is no alamony in your case.
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whippoorwilllane
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OK, there wasn't enough time or room obviously to go into the whole story...but since you touched on this particular subject... He has only asked three times to see the baby... 1. Asked for a broad time, "Next week." Never heard from him, didn't worry too much. 2. It got a little more specific, "Next Tuesday evening." Again, never heard from him. Then the following week he starts accusing me of not letting him see her...my response, "you never called!" His response, "Why didn't you call me?" Why should I have to call to remind him of the day he had wanted to see her? (but he doesn't see this, still tell everyone, including mutual firends at my company that I won't let him see her) 3. Got specific, "Next Tuesday at 5:00." At 5, 6, 7, and 8 I called, texted, left VM, and then emailed later that night. Plus called for the next week...he dissapeared!!! I made sure that I called (even though I think it's ridiculous!) so that he couldn't even TRY to say I wouldn't let him see her. And what do you know...he still says it! Even to me when I finally reach him! How did this even make sense to him? The part that I can't take is knowing that I wake up every day and go bust my rear at work for my daughter. I don't get a whole ton of time with her. And then to think that soon I will be forced to give her up every other weekend, holidays, etc? When he hasn't even attempted to see her in 4 months. Makes me sick to my stomach. Anyone know what the visitation is for anyone under 1 year? And his lack of judgement is what bothers me for her to be with him...he has left her alone (asleep) with his 8 year old at the house. Granted it was only 10 minutes and he was in the neighborhood (far enough to have to drive though) he said, but where does it go from there?!? When we were still together, I walked in from work and saw his 8 year old holding my 2 month old on top of her head in a recliner when he was supposed to be watching her...of course he was in another room watching football.
So basically, I work to provide for my child...he doesn't do anything so he can possibly make his case for spousal support. Trust me...the constant diaper rash she had when he kept her for a day is the least of my worries.
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whippoorwilllane
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Anyone know a good attorney in HOuston area? Aggressive???
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chatter box
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visitation for kids under one is the same as for any other age.
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