Divorce Support Forums: Come to the table for the future

Hello all, I am new to this board. I have been married to the woman of my youth twice. The first marriage lasted 10yrs. We divorced for 3yrs. Now have been married for 11 years. I am child support and arrears free. We are middle class and have two older children 19 & 18. I think my wife is having a mid life crisis. She flat refuses to pay or repay her taxes. I was oftern exposed and had my wages garnished with no accountability on her behalf. This went on for 4yrs. In the last 2yrs I filed married and separed and began to recieve refunds where she set up payment plans and never seem to get caught up. We both are salaried employees. This year for Tax year 2005 just like other years. I asked to see her W2 statement and check stubs from her employer. She adamitly refuses to produce this information for me. She also has a ficticious business name, a website and a P.O. Box near her place of employment. To my knowledge she is not doing any business but working alot of late hours. Often times she seem very aloof. Her domestic duties have wained. We do a 50/50 split on the finances with a joit account and our own separate accounts. We are spending less time together while she attends increasing more community/job related networking events. I'm not sure what direction we are going especially when I am not allow she see what she earns in the last 4yrs or what is being invested etc. Please help