She is seperated from her husband for the second time..and are filing the same divorce papers again but the trouble we had last time is him signing them..when he finally did sign them she went back to him a week later..now we are having trouble with him again but there is no going back this time..she has learned his car is more important than her and the child after all..but the problem we are having this time is he does not agre with the amount of child support even though it was done by some agency from a paycheck stub of his..while they are sperated he has been giving her 250.00 a month but skipped last month..he says that is all a 3 year old needs is 250.00 a month not the 594.00 they have in the papers and that he can't afford that. That if she needed money she could see her stepdad-he's the Mayor he can afford it...ok this p'd me off..we did not get her pregnant to begin with and we surely am not obligated to paying for his & her's mistakes! Even though Mia was not a mistake she's to precious to be that!
About 3 weeks ago she went to his house for the normal every other weekend..my husband & I have been meeting him halfway because he lives about 90 miles away and him and my daughter just did not need to see each other because of the fighting & we did not want them doing this around the baby. Well when we picked her up she was asleep in her car seat I noticed that her face was a red and when she tried to open her eyes they were swollen..I nervously got her and said what's wrong with her eye..he said..she got a little windburned yesterday at the air show but he put sunscreen on her and a cap...and the closer I looked at her the worse she looked..I just hurried up and got her in her car seat to get the heck out of there before I went off on the boy...I called my daughter and told her to meet us at LACC "Doctor" when we got there and not to call her soon to be ex...when my daugther walked in she just started crying...she was sayiong OMG this does not even look like my child...well it ended up the child had 2nd degree burns on her face and scalp..the prescribed her Tylenol with Codine for the pain and also Silver Cream for the burns...everyone we saw thought she either had gotten beaten up or had been in a wreck..it was horrible. Two days later her dad called to ask how Mia was and my daughter told him that she just did not want to talk to him right now because of the way Mia was when she came back from his house and hung up. But she decided to call him back and speak her peace..not sure exactly what was said but she did tell me that he said that he was burnt just as bad as her...and I recall my daughter telling him that was his fault that he was 22 and she is 3 there is a diffrence and that people have gone to jail for child abuse and this was a form of child abuse..this is when he hung up. She did not hear from him again til a week ago when it was suppose to be his weekend again..my daughter informed him that when he got the divorce papers signed..and it went to court and he was paying the right amount of child support she would see her then. See it's not just the sunburn..mostly the sunburn but last year she came back with a sunburn not as bad as this year and he told my daughter that he did not have the money to buy suncreen and then there was the weeks that she came back with bed bug bites..just when we got her cleared up it was time for her to go back to his house and she would come back with them all over her again...he finally did something about that. We took pictures of the bed bug bites and this last sunburn and carried her to the doc each time also so that it would be medically documented as well.
Now my daugther has decided to give in to him because she has threatened to not sign papers unless he see's Mia...but it's only a threat...neither one can afford a lawyer to get this divorce and my husband and I are paying for it if it's not contested..and if either contest they have to get their own lawyer and my daughter making 122.00 a week she cannot afford one and he knows that if he threatens her she is so gullable she will give in..even though we have tried to tell her he won't and even if he did..it would not matter..we're politically connected..that may make sense to some of you but not to others!
I just need some words of advice for my daughter here..because after he said that about us needing to give a little for Mia..we are not meeting him halfway anymore..the divorce papers are written to where he comes and get her all the way and brings her back all the way..he said he can't do that that he needs her to meet him halfway or he won't do it. Well his shift at work has changed as well..he now cannot get Mia on Friday's like before he has to get her on Saturday because he works Friday Nights now til 11:00 and then that means her coming back on Monday's..well my daugther works Monday, Wednesday and Friday each week..so she can't take off work to go get her because he has to be back at work at 3 on Monday's and she does not get off work til 4:30..and we are not doing any hauling anylonger...so my husband said that my daughter needs to tell him that he has to come get her all the way on this Saturday because we have a 5K Run at 9:00 that morn and that monday she works so he will have to bring her back...but we know what will happen when this is done..he will tell my daughter that she has to bring her and pick her up all the way next time..of course if he says that...there won't be a next time til Court..are we wrong for being this way???
I could go on and on and on and say and ask so much but I thinkI could go to a Physco Doc for that!!! LOL
Thanks, Jeanne
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