mfergel
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Reged: 02/11/08
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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I want to get over my wife. I don't want to deal with my problems, I don't want to deal with the issues, I just want someone to show up at my house on occasion, wake up with me in the morning, grab some breakfast and leave. I hated an empty bed when I was married and I hate it even more now.
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Tainted?
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Reged: 04/17/08
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Loc: Idaho
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It sounds like you need a friends with benefits situation. LOL.
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mfergel
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Posts: 1468
Loc: Richmond, VA
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yeah, that would help, but I aint employing have weener will travel.
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taryn
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Loc: standing on the mountaintop! :...
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too funny!
yeah.
im thinking im just about ready for rebound round 2 myself.
i had the fwb thing, but it's not as much fun as a rebound.
naahhh...i may just hold off until im ready for a semi real relationship.
...or not....decisions, decisions....
by the way m.
dont put to much stock in this rebound thing.
1. the person ends up just annoying you with their mere presences.
2. when they leave..you still are smacked in the face with the pain of your current reality.
BUT
on the flip side...
3. for some reason the sex in these senarios is exceptional...i wonder why....
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Nish
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I understand what you want, but burying your head in the sand and not dealing with the problems and the issues, will only delay your healing process.
You want to "get over your wife" but you don't want to do the work necessary to do that. Dealing with issue and problems isn't fun and it hard work. However, if you are going to heal emotionally and move forward with you life, you have to do that hard work.
I am sorry Mfergel, there just isn't any quick or easy fixes for what you are going through.
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smo4o8
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I have been thinking the exact same thing... I know that I am not ready for a relationship, but I want someone to take me out to dinner, bring me home, take me to bed for hours of sex, and then I want them to spend the night and just cuddle. I am tired of sleeping alone. I would not want them to be there in the morning- they wouldn't even have to leave a note- just disappear before the sun rises. Does this mean I am a bad person? It is so out of character for me, but I have been known to do some crazy things during this whole process...
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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I have been thinking the exact same thing... I know that I am not ready for a relationship, but I want someone to take me out to dinner, bring me home, take me to bed for hours of sex, and then I want them to spend the night and just cuddle. I am tired of sleeping alone. I would not want them to be there in the morning- they wouldn't even have to leave a note- just disappear before the sun rises. Does this mean I am a bad person? It is so out of character for me, but I have been known to do some crazy things during this whole process...
Exactly my thoughts
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smo4o8
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Hey too bad we don't live closer- sounds like we could really help each other out!!! HaHa!!
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Motor-Head
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Loc: 10,000 RPM
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Well get on a plane you chicken LOL
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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Hey too bad we don't live closer- sounds like we could really help each other out!!! HaHa!!
Road trip. :-)
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smo4o8
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Remember- you gotta hit the road before dawn, and when I mean out to eat, I mean a nice place, NOT McDonald's (my kids current fave)...while we are on the topic- I seriously meant HOURS of sex- it's been awhile. If your up for it- drive northwest- I'll be waiting...LOL
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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I better pick up some stamina pills along the way then. :-P
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smo4o8
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Whatever it takes....
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Motor-Head
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Loc: 10,000 RPM
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Well it should not be hard to get laid right in your home town
Get of the putter and go get some jamming in LOL
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Beat-Down
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Reged: 08/20/07
Posts: 223
Loc: Texas
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Mfergel- Please tell me that U R now backing out of the driveway, dropping the shifter in low (while still rolling backwards), smoke every where, Wooo Hoooo!!!!
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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LOL.........boy, we are all deprived around here. :-)
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smo4o8
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In all honesty- I do have a hard time meeting people. I've been out with my sister and friends, and I have not seen one person that I would want to talk to- much less take to bed. I know that I am picky and superficial, I will be the first to admit it. I have high standards and I do need to be physically attracted to someone. My STBX is probably the most handsome man I have ever laid eyes on (seriously)- but look where looks and a big bank account got me.....I know I should learn from my mistakes, and go for the nice guy with a great heart instead of the good looking, arrogant,ass that will probably break my heart, but how can you help what type you are attracted to? I do not want a guy who follows me around and does everything I say. I don't want someone who is clingy and co-dependant. Right now I just want a hot guy who can f u c k..Well that about sums it up I think...
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smo4o8
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Okay- let me clarify, I am really not a bitchy w h o r e it just sounds that way in my last post..
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newlife07
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Reged: 05/05/08
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Loc: Virginia
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I think most of us understand!! I know I do-I am looking for that guy too!!
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happy2bme
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Loc: Phoenix, AZ
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I recommend a FWB situation.
Seriously, it was really difficult for me to have sex with someone else-- I felt SO much guilt, mostly about still being married.
The FWB thing was great because I didn't have the hassle of a relationship. And after the first time, it was all good.
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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I hear you smo. I feel like I've been a bit superficial as well, but I want to lust for my mate as well as love them. I will admit though that since the separation, I see different qualities in different women and I do find myself attracted to women that I may not have before. Like the date I had last Tuesday. The old me might have had second thoughts about it, but in all honesty, when I saw her for the first time, there was something about her personality that really popped. I feel like I have a more open mind about things now.........but trust me, hot sex will still be a requirement. The sex in my marriage was a bit boring.
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ATVILLAS
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If you really put "hot sex" as one of your priorities anywhere near the top of the list, you might be sadly dissapointed as far as a long term relation goes. I really think good sex is a benefit of a really good relationship.
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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Well, when I say hot sex, I guess I'm more interested in someone that is comfortable with herself and her body. I know everyone always wishes they had smaller love handles, etc. I just don't want anyone that feels inhibited to talk about what they like, etc. I just don't feel like a couple should be ashamed to talk about sex with each other. To me, that's what winds up turning into hot sex.
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movingon2
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I recommend a FWB situation.
Seriously, it was really difficult for me to have sex with someone else-- I felt SO much guilt, mostly about still being married.
The FWB thing was great because I didn't have the hassle of a relationship. And after the first time, it was all good.
What is a FWB situation?
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newlife07
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Reged: 05/05/08
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Loc: Virginia
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I think it is--Friend with benefits...
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movingon2
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Thanks...little naïve, I've been tucked away too long
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newlife07
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Reged: 05/05/08
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Loc: Virginia
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it's ok-I was too-just getting back out there myself...
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ATVILLAS
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Loc: West Palm Beach FL
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Well, when I say hot sex, I guess I'm more interested in someone that is comfortable with herself and her body. I know everyone always wishes they had smaller love handles, etc. I just don't want anyone that feels inhibited to talk about what they like, etc. I just don't feel like a couple should be ashamed to talk about sex with each other. To me, that's what winds up turning into hot sex.
Well that certainly makes sense and I agree. Still isn't the top of the list though and if the connection does happen I am sure it would be a natural follow through.
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