justme1961
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Reged: 03/11/08
Posts: 84
Loc: NH
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Okay-
So,last week I find out my ex has hired a lawyer for our hearing in 2 weeks. He owes me around $18,000, he is currently unemployed, yet he can afford to pay a lawyer. ARGH.......I know I will probably never see any of the money. I know he is running scared because he is facing jail time. Well, who's fault is that??? It is not my fault he is financially irresponsible. How can someone who earned over $135,000 last year have NO MONEY??? Plus, his wife works.
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chatter box
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Reged: 11/09/07
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It's called priorities and he doesn't have his in order.
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JenH03
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Reged: 02/07/08
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"How can someone who earned over $135,000 last year have NO MONEY??? Plus, his wife works."
When you find out the answer to that question, let me know, cuz my husband's ex made at least that much also and claims broke all the time too. And her husband also works. I don't get it either. If my husband and I made that much money, plus got the CS she gets, we'd be quite comfortable.
I guess some people just live beyond their means.
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Loc: NJ
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[quote] I guess some people just live beyond their means. [/quote]
What?? You mean that's not the American Way?
I wish high school taught people how to budget and live in the real world rather than just reading, writing and rithmatic. My parents taught me about budgeting and stuff (mostly because they didn't let us kids ask for the sun and expect it and we had to work and save up for things we wanted to buy as we got older) but I don't think a lot of parents teach these things because they don't know it themselves. Any new man I meet who I might consider a prospect will need to show me how they budget. I'm not falling into the spendthrift trap again.
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JenH03
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My stepson actually had a project in his Econmics class (which I remember doing also) where he had to pretend to get a job, a car, an apartment, figure out living expenses, etc. I'm not sure how much he really learned from it but at least it was something, cuz he definitely isn't learning the value of a dollar from his mother!
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ATVILLAS
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Reged: 05/12/07
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Loc: Lost in the post D maze!!
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[quoteI wish high school taught people how to budget and live in the real world rather than just reading, writing and rithmatic. [/quote]
Did schools here start teaching that again? I thought it was puters,sports and cheerleading!!!
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Samsung
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I had a business class in high school in the 1970's, where we were to invest a "fake" $200 in the stock market, after the teacher gave us a few pointers. One of the students, who had a job, actually invested $200. He put it all into a local power company, and never took it out. I talked to him recently, and it's worth about $16K. His only comment beyond that, was he wished he had taken the $2500 he had saved at the same time to buy a car, and put it there, as it would be worth over $200K now!
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Toadsrus
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Reged: 05/23/08
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[quote]Okay-
So,last week I find out my ex has hired a lawyer for our hearing in 2 weeks. He owes me around $18,000, he is currently unemployed, yet he can afford to pay a lawyer. ARGH.......I know I will probably never see any of the money. I know he is running scared because he is facing jail time. Well, who's fault is that??? It is not my fault he is financially irresponsible. How can someone who earned over $135,000 last year have NO MONEY??? Plus, his wife works. [/quote]
I had my first court date yesterday. The stbx and I agreed that neither of us were going to get attorneys as neither of us could afford it. Well, I walk into the courthouse and here comes her attorney introducing himself. Last week she was trying to squeeze money out of me because she told me she couldn't afford to buy groceries or clothes for the kids, then she shows up with a lawyer that required a $5,000 retainer! She couldn't even feed the kids! (and yes I have been paying her child support since our separation, without any court order. She just spends it all on trips to wineries and concerts and limos and fancy dinners and $1,000 shopping sprees, then tells the kids it's somehow my fault when they can't have something they want)
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katyb66
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Reged: 06/01/08
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Hi justme,
Have your attorney check into this law, if the man was making that much money and not paying child support then he looks to be "willingly" not paying. Refer to section below of $10,000 being a felony. Check your state OCSE to find out how they handle someone who is $10,000 or more behind in C/S. Some will have him sign an agreement and if he misses ONE TIME then he goes to prison- not jail but prison.
hope this helps.
The Law Today
Today, a child support violator can be prosecuted under Federal law if the following facts exists: 1) the violator willfully failed to pay; 2) a known child support obligation; 3) which has a) remained unpaid for longer than a year or is greater than $5,000 (misdemeanor), or has b) remained unpaid for longer than two years or is greater than $10,000 (felony) 4) for a child who resides in another state, or 1) the violator traveled in interstate or foreign commerce; 2) with the intent to evade a support obligation; 3) if such obligation has remained unpaid for a period of one year or longer-or is greater than $5,000 (felony). See 18 U.S.C. §228.
Edited by katyb66 (06/01/08 07:29 PM)
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Samsung
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I wouldn't mind these kinds of laws, as long as they apply to all debt. If you are $10K behind on credit cards or child support, the penalty should be same.
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