is it over
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Reged: 11/19/06
Posts: 317
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Guitar, I know you don't like meeting via internet or chat.. but I'm thinkin the kind of girl you want right now might be found there. I'm talkin yahoo chat rooms - married and lonely, etc... alot of people in there want nothing more than superficial good times.. distractions.. and they are less likely to get emotionally involved or hurt. That being said.. that's also the turnoff of such places. I wish you the best. I don't mean to sound bossy or judgemental. Its just that I have been divorced a year now, and been out in this dating world, and its really nice to meet a guy who is legit... not saying your not, but if you think about your ex EVERY day still, you're not ready to meet someone else.
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Cindy B
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Reged: 12/17/06
Posts: 3152
Loc: TX
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If you are seriously wanting to date then you are not serious about getting your marriage straight. It sounds to me like you want your cake and eat it, too. Make up your mind first, then stick with that decision.
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"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
- Oscar Wilde
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MGnShades
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Reged: 02/10/07
Posts: 27
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If you're not completely free of your marriage emotionally I would not date. You have to consider the feelings of the people you will be dating as well. They're not trinkets to be toyed with. They're human beings with emotions as well.
There's nothing wrong with going out to parties, dances, bars etc. to mingle and have a good time. It's good for the soul. I would just avoid anything that has potential to lead to something until you know where you're headed.
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Armor
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Reged: 10/27/06
Posts: 438
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If you're not completely free of your marriage emotionally I would not date. You have to consider the feelings of the people you will be dating as well. They're not trinkets to be toyed with. They're human beings with emotions as well.
I agree 100%. Your having "fun" while trying to sort things out would be doing so at the expense of yet another persons feelings and emotions in addition to your wife's and childrens'.
At the risk of sounding harsh...based on the sum of your posts here, you are far too self centered and confused to be anywhere near ready to date, and you have absolutely no concept of the give and take that is required to have a healthy relationship. All you are going to do is end up hurting somebody elses feelings and worsen your own situation. You need to get to a point where you are actually thinking of other peoples needs instead of just your own before you will be of any value to a partner relationship-wise.
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alister
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Reged: 01/31/08
Posts: 15
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Thanks – this looks like a great site for anyone who wants to become lovable.
Again thanks a lot!
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Dating Site
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guitar82
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Reged: 02/24/08
Posts: 374
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Well,I have made up my mind.I am done with her.I have moved on.I have started to find happiness again.I'm having fun again for the first time in years.
I tell the ladies that I chat with up front that,in within the month I will be divorced,true statement,that we still live together and she will move out soon.
My emotional attachment to her is gone and have no disire to go back with her.And she reminds me of why I don't want to be with her anymore everyday.
So said,I have moved on,enjoying my life as best I can.
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This is only a very short period in a very long life
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taryn
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Reged: 05/31/07
Posts: 2105
Loc: Hell...but im coming back up, ...
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.How many of you have dated before you were ready?
me.
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taryn.
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alister
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Reged: 01/31/08
Posts: 15
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Nice job! It's really nice link that you have shared with us.
Thanks!
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Dating Site
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