mbrown3
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I'm at the point now where i'm beyond the "rebound" phase and have been dating for several months now. but this past week was the first time i'd been used for sex. I went out with the guy 2x's and then got drunk and had a lapse in judgement. he kept telling me how he was "just a great guy" which is obvious BS not to mention he also said he was "huge" which turned out to not be true either!
but he "hit it and quit it" i'm sooo annoyed and pissed but i'm trying not to go off on him and just leave gracefully but its soooo hard! why do Some men think this is ok?
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germangirl631
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At the time, you thought it was OK, too. In these days, you can't be too careful. Think STDs, crazy people. Only knowing a guy for 2 dates and then sleeping with them well, that sounds like just mutual sex. Not a real relationship. So, I'm not sure how you can feel used. Try not to drink so much on your dates and you'll keep your head clear to protect yourself. I'm not trying to sound mean, just calling the cards as I see them.
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Beat-Down
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[i'm sooo annoyed and pissed but i'm trying not to go off on him and just leave gracefully but its soooo hard! why do Some men think this is ok?]
I am not sure what he did wrong. Has he stopped talking to you now?
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Motor-Head
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"hit it and quit it"
LOL Plenty around here that can do better then that LOL
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cantbelieveit02
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My x did that to me it just took 17 years and it left a lifetime scar. I know you are annoyed but I'll bet it didn't hurt that bad. Live and learn. Oh and by the way, if a guy talks about his size he is very small and you can take that to the bank!
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mbrown3
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yah, he stopped calling, and answering my calls. before i slept with him he called me several times a day and now its been 4 days.
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cantbelieveit02
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You know he is a jerk. Be thankful that it didn't go any further.
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taryn
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gotta hate that!
chalk it up there with a guy who's an a$$ and move on.
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happytobdivorced
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If he does call you again-ignore him. You know what he is made of now. He might try to BS you and you may fall for his excuses. Show him what YOU are made of!
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Message for my ex "I think you know by now, I'm not the person I used to be"
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happy2bme
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oh suckage, that totally sucks.
I got used this past summer-- I was "dating" this guy, I thought he was totally great & I thought we clicked... one day he just stopped calling and literally disappeared! I called him and emailed him to leave him a message, just to make sure he was ok and to tell him that if it was something I had said or done that caused him to stop coming around I wished he'd had the decency to at least tell me... and I heard NOTHING from him again.
Owell, his loss, right?
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cantbelieveit02
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You know men can be just as shallow as women. Gender really makes no difference. Its how we are brought up I think. If I am ever able to trust another person ( and I hope I can ) I will look into their background like a employer would. But then again maybe I would misout on something good. I don't know?
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picasso
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My x did that to me it just took 17 years and it left a lifetime scar. I know you are annoyed but I'll bet it didn't hurt that bad. Live and learn. Oh and by the way, if a guy talks about his size he is very small and you can take that to the bank!
Mine's so small that one time I got drunk and had to pee...so I went into the bathroom, grabbed my left thumb with my right hand and pissed in my pants.
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ljlost
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Yeah. I know what you mean. And it has happened to me in the past. You just have to move on and forget about it. Its all you can do. As far as him saying what a great guy he is.............I can relate to that too. Sometimes people just flat out tell lies girl!! I had it happen where a guy lied about everything from his profession all the way to all the crap about his ex gf. It was all a bunch of lies that he never admitted to but I ended up finding out otherwise. MANY men think this way. Not all of them do though. You'll get through this. You really will,
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ljlost
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And hey, mbrown, remember this too:
just remember when someone annoys you, it takes 42 muscles in your face to frown.............
But only 4 muscles to extend your arm and bi tch slap that mother fu cker upside the head!
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mfergel
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Wish someone would use me. I'd let them.
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ljlost
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mfergel,
You do NOT mean that, so dont say it. Its really not a good feeling to be left feeling dirty and used. Maybe you just need someone to talk to!
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mfergel
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But I do mean it. At least then I could say someone found me interesting enought to take advantage of.
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ljlost
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NO...................you DONT mean it. Wouldnt you rather have someone find you interesting enough to be your friend and remain a good friend than someone to find you interesting enough to have sex with??? I would. Even though both would have been nice. lol
Seriously....it does not feel good to be used. Been there and dont plan on ever going there again.
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Beat-Down
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Loc: Texas
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Ok I didn't realize that he wasn't returning your calls now. I understand things better now. Maybe the guy embarrassed himself?????
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mbrown3
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Loc: Lake Norman NC
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i never thought of that. but the way he talked his size up and then only lasted a minute....he probably is embarrassed! i like that excuse and i'm going to hang on to it, THANKS!
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ljlost
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IF a guy talks about his size at all..........red flag
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