Jada
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[quote]Thank you for your advices. As for lawyer I got one, supposed to be good.Better be, because I really need to see all the picture, how low can my husband go.
I just did not get something - even if I would sign for some reasons, and my husband buys another property or house after the day we sign the postnup, in case of divorce I'd be still able to get part of it, or it will be untouchable? What if his parents make it a gift for him?
All this situation sucks...:( But thanks for talking, makes me feel better:) [/quote]
None of us here knows what the postnup says. Take it to an attorney and ask these questions. What you need is legal advice.
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allthumbs
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I fail to see why you should sign anything. If you want to divorce him, go ahead. If he wants to divorce you, let him. The laws of most states are pretty clear on division of property, child and spousal support. And since most states are no fault, then there's no reason to go into that either. You'll get half of everything, including the value of his business plus child and spousal support. Maybe more if he is wealthy. Just say no.
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tired123
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That's what I have in my mind, I'm rolling to attorney's office next week, made an appt., and we'll take it from there. Funny thing is how my husband talks tough, but looses sleep over all that, and I know it is not because he wants to prevent divorce...It is all about money. Sad.
I just rethink scenario IF I sign- he already thinks as I'm a housewife, you know , life as a dream, just a thought I would obey to this crazy request, 4 kids later, really kills my self respect. But how to throw all the feelings quickly - I don't know, it's just hard... Well enough whining I have to get ready for upcoming battle anyway.I'm just wondering if it's really that scary to become single again...
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theanswerguy
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Was the business started during the marriage ?
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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tired123
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2 years before we got married. Do you think I'd get a piece from it? I never could see this all mess coming, don't have much of a knowledge about who gets what,ect.Well..
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Samsung
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"In addition - we're married 5 years, 4 kids later and tons of money(it's all in business, and I don't see it anyway) my husband changed to the worst side. Money hungry type."
I can't say what your husband is like, since he isn't posting here. But you say he makes wads of money, and 1/2 isn't enough for you....I'd have to say you are more money hungry then him.
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tired123
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Absolutely not true. I'm just concern about my and my children's future. I have two children from previous marriage and two with him. So you can call me money hungry, but my concern is different than money. Who would take care of two stepchildren? That always was and will be just my responsibility. As for him - his hands will be open, and he'll have a good chance to support himself.
Besides that, all this time I was working for free anyway, so no offense but I would not mind to take what I deserve.
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theanswerguy
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2 years before we got married. Do you think I'd get a piece from it?
Unlikely , unless you can prove an increase in value due to your direct contributions . Spousal support(even if only temporary ) , child support & an equitable share of the marital assets will have to do .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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tired123
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So far I just feel that I'm loosing all the point even to consider signing something, emotions sooner or later would overcome and we would end up probably with divorce anyway... I just can not take the pressure. Not from person I've considered my "better half". Not anymore...
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KGrow
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Loc: Colorado
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Nuptial agreements are fragile. One signed under duress can be easily invalidated. Sign or don't sign. I think ether choice leads you to almost exactly the same place - a complicated and contentious divorce.
Have you tried changing the channel on this? Money issues are just going to drive you two apart. What is it that could bring you closer together?
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