aspect
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I've run into quite a conundrum lately.
I don't have the opportunity to meet ladies in person all that much. I work at home and I don't go to bars/clubs. So, I've been rather forced to meet women online (Match/Myspace/etc). Meeting online has not been a problem for me. In fact, it's overwhelmed with the amount of people messaging me. It's actually been annoying as I've been getting people's stories confused.
I'll be the first to admit that I'm rather shallow. I am initially drawn to women that take care of themselves and are very attractive. After meeting them, I then learn if they have additional qualities that I desire (personality, chemistry).
Now, in the online dating realm, it's the complete opposite. I typically get to see a handful of outdated photos that show the person in an upper body or head shot. While they may have a pretty face, the rest of the package is an absolute crap shoot. But, I get to know their personality as I tend to talk a bit with them via email and eventually over the phone before finally meeting them. They are great until I meet them. 
I think this situation works best for people who like working in that order (personality, physical attraction, chemistry). I'm not like that.
I wish I could enjoy the company of people that aren't physically attractive to me.... but I just can't do it.
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ATVILLAS
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You really need to turn the computer off and get out more!!
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Books29
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Hey...Atleast you know what you need. Knowing you need someone that is physically attractive is not bad to know. If you read the book, "His needs, Her needs", one of the top five most important needs for men is a partner who is physically attractive to them so you're not much different from any other male out there.
Have you joined a gym at all? Or maybe sign up for some recreational sports teams in your area. This could give you an opportunity to meet people that take care of themselves physically. How about yoga/pilates? Don't laugh! There are tons of attractive women in those classes! And, I know a lot of men who do those classes and really enjoy them.
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aspect
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Hey...Atleast you know what you need. Knowing you need someone that is physically attractive is not bad to know. If you read the book, "His needs, Her needs", one of the top five most important needs for men is a partner who is physically attractive to them so you're not much different from any other male out there.
Have you joined a gym at all? Or maybe sign up for some recreational sports teams in your area. This could give you an opportunity to meet people that take care of themselves physically. How about yoga/pilates? Don't laugh! There are tons of attractive women in those classes! And, I know a lot of men who do those classes and really enjoy them.
Yes, I'm a member of a gym. Unfortunately, it's filled with obese men/women. There's a handful of good looking women there, but they are all married. I'm friends with their husbands. 
I also train Jujitsu. Unfortunately, its mostly men. But, it is what's been helping me cope with this divorce crap, so I'm not about to drop it so I can take yoga/pilates.
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divinediscontent
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Haven't you ever, ever met a woman that you thought was just kind of okay, then once you got to know her, you thought she was the most adorable, attractive, funny, smartest person? I've met men like that, usually it takes awhile for a person's best attributes to come to the forefront.
But then, as a woman, I never really cared for the superficially attractive male. I'd hate to find myself in the same room with Brad Pitt cause I'm quite certain I'd feel like he's prettier than me!
Your last sentence really needs some clarfication... I mean! Does that imply all of your friends and acquaintances are beautiful? If so, you better go slumming dude and hook up with some of the non-beautiful people. I'm pretty sure you'd be in for a treat!
Lisa
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norcal
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So I'm gathering from your post that you are the complete, total package?
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
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You could always do what I did. I went to probation monday at the courthouse and ran into an attractive girl( not in any trouble) I went to dinner with a few times and caught up. It's a hell of a price to pay to meet women however.
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aspect
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Loc: Texas
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Haven't you ever, ever met a woman that you thought was just kind of okay, then once you got to know her, you thought she was the most adorable, attractive, funny, smartest person? I've met men like that, usually it takes awhile for a person's best attributes to come to the forefront.
People have grown on me. But more so once I've established the fact that there's no physical attraction and took the relationship as purely platonic.
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Your last sentence really needs some clarfication... I mean! Does that imply all of your friends and acquaintances are beautiful? If so, you better go slumming dude and hook up with some of the non-beautiful people. I'm pretty sure you'd be in for a treat!
Some of my friends have some attractive wives. No doubt. I use the term 'friends' loosely. Mostly acquaintances.
And I just can't slum. It's not one of my skills.
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aspect
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So I'm gathering from your post that you are the complete, total package?
I'm not a complete, total package. I have one flaw. 
But seriously, how did you gather that? I don't recall mentioning that I'm perfect.
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guitar82
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Reged: 02/24/08
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Hey,I'm with you dude.
Online dating sucks.
I have better luck meeting women where I work because I can see them,talk to them,you know,normal human interaction.
I get smiles all day long and then I get up the nerve to strike up a conversation,thats the hard part.
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