aspect
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OK, so they who here has actually dated someone they met at the gym?
I did in college. But I think the girls at the gym in college are there to meet guys. Whereas, the women in gyms are there to work out. You can easily tell the difference between who is there to meet guys and who is going to get annoyed if you talk to them.
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I think the problem is I don't know what situations are ok to approach some one. For example, last Thursday a large group of us went to dinner. There was a girl eating at another table with her parents and her daughter. No wedding ring, so most likely a single mother. She was cute and I think we may have made casual glances at each other, but that was that. What's appropriate in a situation like that? Do you just walk up, say I'm sorry for interupting your meal but I couldn't help but notice you from across the room. Would you like to get coffee sometime? It just seems so shallow. I don't know. I was never good at meeting women unless one or both of us were drunk.
I've always been much better meeting people face to face then online. Online it just feels really awkward to me. I stumble a bit on how to get the conversation initiated. I don't want to sound retarded. Written text doesn't convey tone, so it's easy to come off as an idiot. 
In your scenario, if I felt there was a connection (smiles/glances), I would of done something. I probably wouldn't of interrupted their meal, as some parents might be upset over that. However, when they are getting up to leave, I would of pounced.
Just think of this. What's the worst thing that can happen? She says no, laughs at you? The father is actually her boyfriend? Embarrassment? Big deal. Nobody but you will care that this ever happened. But, what's the best thing that can happen? A date, a relationship down the road, etc...
If anything, it gives you experience so the next time you do it, you adjust your tactics based upon what worked and what didn't.
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movingon2
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aspect, aspect, aspect,
From reading your posts I’m thinking like a few others…’you've got to be the total package’ but why so much trouble hooking up with an attractive women?
What is that one flaw? come on tell us....
Are you really the Quasimodo type? And before I get slammed I am only kidding there is absolutely nothing wrong with a Quasimodo type just ask my ex…it’s all about personality not looks! Nope physical attraction isn't important and I wouldn't give George Clooney a second glance in the grocery store 
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norcal
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Moving, it was pointed out to me (not by aspect) that yea, he’s got it going on.
But, I gotta give a women’s perspective…
If a man is going to try a blatant pick up line, he better be:
1. very smooth
2. very good looking
3. so horrifically uncomfortable looking delivering a pickup line, that he’s cute
otherwise, not many women are going to be impressed.
IMO!
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mfergel
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I say that's bull, women are going to be drawn to physical characteristics from the start as well.
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norcal
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Did you happen to read #2?
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mfergel
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yeah, but I'm saying even if it isn't a blatant pickup line. If a guy that may not be the best looking guy (balding, little weight issue, etc) in the world is sitting next to you and church and tries to start up a conversation with you, seems like a nice enough guy and asks you to coffee, I would say the vast majority of women are going to turn him down.
There was a report recently I ready where in most cases, couples (in terms of physical looks) on a scale of 1-10 are usually within a +2/-2 of each other. So if a women is a 10, chances are she will not be seen with a 6, unless that 6 is able to offset his physical defects by a large bank account, etc.
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norcal
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Maybe the scenario you describe is true of most women, but it’s not true for me. I would be more apt to accept an invitation from a balding, little over weight man that struck up a conversation at church, than a drop-dead gorgeous guy that tried a blatant, cheesy pick-up line at the grocery store. I wouldn’t describe myself as a ten, but I know I’m not a six!!
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mfergel
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Maybe the scenario you describe is true of most women, but it’s not true for me. I would be more apt to accept an invitation from a balding, little over weight man that struck up a conversation at church, than a drop-dead gorgeous guy that tried a blatant, cheesy pick-up line at the grocery store. I wouldn’t describe myself as a ten, but I know I’m not a six!!
Hi. How you doing? Nice running into you here on this forum. You come around here often? Listen, if you're not doing anything Saturday,............... :-)
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malone
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You guys doin that selective reading again? By the way Malone I'm a lot taller now that I'm standing up straight again. You rock girl, thanks for the nice thoughts again.
And here I am at 5'5" Pat. 2 inches less than I used to be. And it's my pleasure. You rock too.
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aspect
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From reading your posts I’m thinking like a few others…’you've got to be the total package’ but why so much trouble hooking up with an attractive women?
Because I'm picking them up online. :/ I'm at least picking out the attractive faces. I did, however, go to Wal Mart today all prepared to do my shopping cart trick, but the scene was pretty dead. Sigh...
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Nope physical attraction isn't important and I wouldn't give George Clooney a second glance in the grocery store
I wouldn't give Clooney a second glance either. Brad Pitt... now that's a different story...
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