aspect
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Maybe the scenario you describe is true of most women, but it’s not true for me. I would be more apt to accept an invitation from a balding, little over weight man that struck up a conversation at church, than a drop-dead gorgeous guy that tried a blatant, cheesy pick-up line at the grocery store. I wouldn’t describe myself as a ten, but I know I’m not a six!!
You have to admit that if the drop dead gorgeous guy has a brain, charisma, and shows an interest in you, that you won't just dismiss him. Those are the things that help formulate chemistry.
Everyone wants the same end result. Chemistry. The difference is what gets the person a foot in the door. For some people, they have to have an emotional connection, a compatible personality, and not look like a troll. For others, the order is different. My personal preferences are looks and then personality. Those two form chemistry which makes me want to date you. The emotional connection comes later.
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mrpat
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Your honesty is a nice quality.
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smo4o8
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I am right there with you, Aspect. I think that initially physical attraction is what attracts me to someone and then if they have a brain and a good heart that it a bonus. I know that seems shallow, but it's the truth. I have tried to talk to the nice guy that isn't that good-looking and I can't get past the lack of physical attraction. That being said, I married the most handsome man that I have ever laid eyes on- and there was such attraction that it was unreal, but look where it landed me...on a divorce support forum. Seriously, I have been wondering lately if there is a man that is good looking and nice, honest, employed, etc....Maybe you have to choose one or the other. Aspect, if you are the total package maybe you should just give me a call- sounds like we are on the same page. LOL!!
-Sarah
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mfergel
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I'm the same way. There has to be some physical attraction but I'm finding that I look at women a little differently than I used to. I'm more willing to give women that I might not have considered my type more of a chance, like my date tonight. Not so much the physical aspect either, but she's into NASCAR and is a smoker. Neither is a big turn on for me so she'd have to be better looking in person than the picture I've seen and/or have a fantastic personality......but it's just a date. Nothing more.
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norcal
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You have to admit that if the drop dead gorgeous guy has a brain, charisma, and shows an interest in you, that you won't just dismiss him. Those are the things that help formulate chemistry.
You sir don't know me! I don't care how drop dead gorgeous or charismatic he is, if it's blatantly obvious he's on the make.....
NEXT!
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Everyone wants the same end result. Chemistry. The difference is what gets the person a foot in the door. For some people, they have to have an emotional connection, a compatible personality, and not look like a troll. For others, the order is different. My personal preferences are looks and then personality. Those two form chemistry which makes me want to date you. The emotional connection comes later.
Yes, agreed chemistry is very important, but (for me) looks aren't the most important piece of the equation.
Picture the most beautiful woman that you are extremely attracted to. Now imagine yourself walking toward her when you begin to notice the most heinous, foul odor that happens to be her.....
you still feeling the chemistry?
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norcal
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....and yes, I'm soooooo proud of myself for FINALLY getting the quote thingy right!
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abbysfv
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I just go for a man that looks like he can deliver in the sack.
He-he just kidding. My stbx was cute but not the sharpest pencil in the pack. I want someone who is intelligent and has a good personality.
Good luck to the original poster, finding someone who is the total package isn't easy.
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divinediscontent
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Gawd.. I love this thread. Very educational. I have been away for awhile so I'm having trouble taking it all in...the sex of the poster is important when reading the responses and determining their point of view and many of your names are not exactly gender revealing!
Lisa
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aspect
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Aspect, if you are the total package maybe you should just give me a call- sounds like we are on the same page. LOL!!
-Sarah
Since this would qualify as online dating, I must request full-body, and current photos. Holding a current newspaper would qualify. :P
Clothing is optional.
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aspect
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I'm the same way. There has to be some physical attraction but I'm finding that I look at women a little differently than I used to. I'm more willing to give women that I might not have considered my type more of a chance, like my date tonight. Not so much the physical aspect either, but she's into NASCAR and is a smoker. Neither is a big turn on for me so she'd have to be better looking in person than the picture I've seen and/or have a fantastic personality......but it's just a date. Nothing more.
For me, the smoking would probably do her in. I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. No amount of perfume will disguise it with causing another odor problem. Plus, smoker's breath is downright nasty, especially if you don't smoke.
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You sir don't know me! I don't care how drop dead gorgeous or charismatic he is, if it's blatantly obvious he's on the make.....
I guess it depends on your definition of 'on the make'. Wanting to ask you out/meet you? I'm not a player by any stretch of the imagination. I just want to meet someone that looks nice and has a personality.
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Picture the most beautiful woman that you are extremely attracted to. Now imagine yourself walking toward her when you begin to notice the most heinous, foul odor that happens to be her.....
you still feeling the chemistry?
Of course not. That's part of the package. However, the looks got me close enough to smell her. 
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Gawd.. I love this thread. Very educational. I have been away for awhile so I'm having trouble taking it all in...the sex of the poster is important when reading the responses and determining their point of view and many of your names are not exactly gender revealing!
You can thank Malone for inspiring this thread. I was entertaining her with my misadventures and she suggested making this a post. I've not even told you about some of the girls I've met. 
And just so you know... I'm a guy.
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