Divorce Support Forums: X changing my accounts

Send a letter to her telling her very simply that she can't overpay a bill that you've already paid and then direct the credit to come back to her, and count it as paying you for her share of teh bill. You expect her to immediately stop doign it this way or to send all the credits back to you, and if she fails to straighten out her mess, you're taking her to court to show that she's been committing fraud in setting up accounts to make it look like she paid for her daughter's healthcare while actually just paying and getting paid back for what she'd paid, while you have previously paid the entire amounts, thereby defrauding you and her daughter of the payments that should be made by her on your daughter's behalf.

If she does not fix it, then it is clearly not just a MISTAKE... so it's clearly fraud. At that point you can take her to court for contempt in failing to pay the medical bills, by setting up this fraudulent system where she pays and gets reimbursed for her own payments due ot the fact that the bills were already paid in full by you, so rather than reimbursing you for half, she has figured it out so that it appears she has paid and simply gets reimbursed, herself.

It's not easy to trace, but once the scheme is explained in one paragraph, the fraud is obvious... and with that in mind, the judge could look at the receipts she'd provide to prove "I paid", and know that it was part of a scam.

The only part of this I don't know for sure is if you can take her to court, yourself. Most people, most courts, you can. I don't understand your state though... because I seem to remember that you are always waiting on teh AG's office to do this stuff instead of doing it yourself. In my knowledge, filing for contempt of court is not REQUIRED to be done by the AG's office... it's just easier for the poorer party if the AG's steps in because their attorneys do it for free... and if the AG's office declines to deal with it there's nothing prohibiting you from doing it for yourself! In most states... but like I said, I'm not sure about yours and you've said before that for some reason you COULD NOT act because the AG's office decided not to...

Anyways... it's understandable why the AG's thinks she has paid the bills, huh? Maybe if you haven't burnt all your bridges with them you can find someone and show them how this happened and they'll get furious over the fraud & will start to deal with it.

I mean... by the records she provided... she would show that she DID have receipts for payment of the bills, wouldn't she? So their response when you asked for help and she said, "but I PAID, here's PROOF"... was reasonable.

And a little side comment... when people get here and get all angry at the system for not doing the right thing... when they don't follow up and figure out what's happened and instead start blaming the system... when they use it as an opportunity to vent and be a jerk and burn bridges with people within the system who are going to lable them as a jerk... when the TRUTH is that someone NOT within the system has committed fraud and the manner in which they've committed it is simply not apparent yet...

Well... then burning your bridges and accusing people of not doing thier job properly, trying to get people fired before you've figured out the whole story ... before you've seen all the evidence... it turns out to be creating more trouble for yourself because once the fraud committed by some unrelated person against you becomes apparent, you sure wish taht bridge was still there for you to cross...

See if you can get in touch with the last person you dealt with at the AG's office, explain that you just now got the proof and figured out what happened, and she ahs defrauded both you and them by double paying the bills directly rather than reimbursing you, and arranging for the overpayments to be returned to her directly, making it appear like she had receipts for proof of payment while actually turning around and getting reimbursed back for what she'd paid, instead of EVER reimbursing YOU or putting out a dime on the kid's behalf. And explain that you've got a tangled ton of documents that will prove that, and would they be willing to accept your apology for accusing them of not paying attention to you because you're a man, and understnad that she defrauded not only you, but also them and anyone else that she wanted to provide proof of payment to... and would they be willing to help you straighten it out so that if she insists on directly paying the docs, that the reimbursements would be returned to YOU instead of HER?