kent
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I am curious --
at which point does it switch from being two friends hanging out to a casual date?
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mrpat
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After smoochin'.
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I am curious --
at which point does it switch from being two friends hanging out to a casual date?
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Solorider
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I'm with mrpat. If you both look into each others eyes and then kiss...I think the hangin' out thing is done.
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kent
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The smoochin part is OBVIOUS!
Clarity --- think about Gigi's advice of "dates." At which point is it JUST hanging out, and at which point is it a casual GIGI style date?
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mrpat
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Maybe when you start worring about what you look like just hangin' out?
If I wanna look good for a girl just to hang out, it's just escalated
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germangirl631
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Casual hang out: split the bill. Not really thinking about holding their hand or getting closer. Just having a good time like you're with your brother or sister. You know there could be nothing romantic between you.
Date: Could still split the cost, but you're thinking about what it would be like to kiss that other person. You're more concerned with learning about the other person than just talking about whatever. Your MO is to get to know the other person better rather than hang out. You're filtering through the conversation to see if you want to date them again. You have romantic feelings towards that other person.
I think if you're hanging out with someone you really want to date for too long, it will drive you crazy.
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mfergel
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When you ask her to spit shine your Mercedes, it is no longer just hanging out. :-)
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cwag
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when you have to ask yourself thsi question....
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gigi
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It's not a Gigi style casual date until you're comfortable labeling it as a casual date. It's not a casual date till you're both on board with the fact that it's more than just a hang-out. That's why a kiss is the clear indicator that you've passed into "date" territory... because it suggests that both of you are on board & aware that it's more than just a hang-out... but between the moment where you plan the meeting and the moment when you choose to kiss each other... it's all a great big beautiful fun gray area where you're lucky if your heart starts beating quicker when you see her and you start THINKING about whether you should pay for her coffee or kiss her or ... whatever.
When you're in the gray area, you call it anything you want... it's PRACTICE ... it's getting to know her... it's not supposed to be something you need to label and worry about or push for more. Unless you WANT to label it & worry about it & push for more.
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