mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 2894
Loc: Florida
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What a buttwad...can't call the kids for weeks and makes no effort before to communicate with me on any issues whether that be our sons health, school or visitation. Now all of a sudden when he gives a date and wants an answer, he can call every day and sometimes 2x's a day. He doesn't have a clue when the kids are out of school for the summer (he'd been told in the past & where to look for school info)...and now expects me to do the research for him and is requesting the first 4 weeks of summer when I simply told him the date he requested was not pheasible as the kids were still in school during that time. Conveniently my cell phone died right after telling him that.
No court order = no visitation...let him figure it out.
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
Posts: 536
Loc: NJ
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I'm anticipating this same type of behavior soon. When you figure out how to handle it, let me know!!
STBX is supposed to get 4 weeks this summer, and has scheduled NO time as of yet. I already told him since he didn't get his request in on time, he'll be at the mercy of our schedules. When you pay for camp, you don't get refunded - and the kid gets mad if they miss it. Also, I rescheduled a Dr appt for DS that was originally for Easter week when his dad swore he would have him. Never materialized, and there's a 4 month wait list for this specialist. So, the last week of August is out. Like I should live my life to accommodate my stbx. NOT ANY MORE!!
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taryn
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Reged: 05/31/07
Posts: 1870
Loc: Hell...but im coming back up, ...
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my stbx's communication and perfect visitation HIGHLY increases prior to any and all court dates.
like clockwork.
crazy thought processes i say!
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taryn.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 2894
Loc: Florida
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He is now calling 3 times a day...his voicemail states that he is waiting for me to tell him what day my son gets out of school as he wants the 4 weeks that follow for visitation.
First of all it is not my responsibility to keep giving him that information, he got a calendar at the beginning of school year and has the ability to either call the school or check it on the internet.
Second, he is purposely stating he wants visitation in June although it was July that was mentioned as a possibility...son would forfeit his spot in summer day camp if he wasn't there for the first month meaning that he has no activity for the rest of the summer and I lose $ already paid. He is only picking June as a control thing as I had suggested July in the past.
Third, I am not sending my son without a court order.
I know I can't keep putting him off as he is calling at least 3x's per day, but I don't want to get into a long drawn out conversation with him. I know it's going to get ugly.
ughh...he's driving me nuts.
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
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Don't get into a long drawn out conversation with him.
E-mail him and tell him that June doesn't work so your child won't be able to come out in June.
And then end the e-mail. Keep it to one thing, addressing the dates he wants. Don't suggest or offer any other dates.
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