billium
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Reged: 05/15/08
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This is the situation:
My ex and I have been divorced for 5 years now. We have a 9 year old and a 15 year old. Both girls. We have joint custody and I have court ordered visitation with my daughters Tues and Thursday evenings and every other weekend. I started over following the divorce. My fiance and I have a 2 year old son in common. She has been involved since day one. As of August 2007, my ex has a court order stating that during my visitation with my girls, my fiance is to not be present. My oldest has been so manipulated by my ex to the point where she agrees with this, eventhough she has already established a bond with my fiance. My youngest is in complete disagreement with this arrangement. Now, as of a month ago, she has since tried to modify the order to request supervised visitation. As of right now, the judge has not signed it. Funny thing is, I have been abiding by supervised visitation and have had my brother present during pickup and drop off just to get them. Days and nights of visitation every other weekend have been at his house.
I am planning on picking up my kids this weekend without him. I know there is no signed order and she has been playing me for a fool because her own attorney has told me it was never signed by a judge.
Is this even a case for supervised visitation. My fiance has never even sworn at the children nor has she laid a hand on them. However, my ex claims she is entitled to simply because she is their mother. What do I do? She has done everything in her power to tear my family apart ever since my son has been born.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3268
Loc: Florida
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No, call her bluff...
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jersey girl
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Reged: 08/07/06
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Supervised visitation is given when the children are in danger. I find it hard to believe that she filed it simply because she is the mother. What are her grounds?
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EZmark
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Reged: 06/04/07
Posts: 292
Loc: Florida
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Stop setting a precedent of supervised visitation immediately! Get a father's rights attorney. Get the kids to an alienation trained therapist that can write a report and testify. If your fiance & you are serious do it, make sure you get the prenups in place. Motion for primary custody based on your new marriage-thats a major change justifying custody re-hearing. Include motion for contempt for alienation and use her motions as evidence of her litigious behavior. Get yourself a custody eval right away. Motion for supervised visitation for her, psych eval for her, social investigation, custody eval. Get a motion to compel counseling for the kids and get them to the alienation trained therapist before she gets an order preventing you. It'll cost her 25K for openers if she wants to play that game, and the kids need an objective voice telling them what she's doing. Your attorney will know how to make at least half of that come to pass. Sounds like she's angry you've moved on and will hurt the kids to get at you. Rotten thing todo, be careful and don't play nice back.
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theanswerguy
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Reged: 04/12/07
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What reason was given for the order keeping your fiance away from the kids ?
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juliacinaz
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Reged: 02/03/08
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[quote]What reason was given for the order keeping your fiance away from the kids ? [/quote]
That is what I was wondering. Are people allowed to just put anything into custody arraingements without any valid reason?
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
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Loc: Florida
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[quote][quote]What reason was given for the order keeping your fiance away from the kids ? [/quote]
That is what I was wondering. Are people allowed to just put anything into custody arraingements without any valid reason? [/quote]
If both parties agree then you can put anything you want...if one party objects, then there is where a valid reason comes into play.
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