Divorce Support Forums: How open have you been with your partner about sex

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Who is standing exposed for who and what they really are... YOU ...can't respond to legitimate questions instead of contrived ones?
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I'm not sure what "legitimate questions" you would like me to answer.

**You made up contrived scenarios about kiddie questions...I gave you true questions that my kids have asked, yet you ignored ALL of them.

If it is the question of "who stands exposed...", then I have already answered it; the answer remains you and all other women who insist that the divorce laws be biased in their favor.

**REally, when have you ever heard me insist any of that? You haven't cause you are just lumping women into one category. Good thing a lot of women don't do that in regards to men like you...

If the questions are the supposed "real" ones which you claim to have actually heard, then I don't know the answers.

**...no not just claimed, it's documented in court documents and my ex has admitted saying certain things to the kids (including the one about bringing my then 14 year old daughter to the doctor to have her hymen examined)

Perhaps you were simply naive at the time you divorced your husband, and thought that you could "do it yourself". Squeezing the life --and life's savings--out of a man in a divorce, is something which lawyers get paid a fortune to do and, although a "slam dunk" for women under modern divorce law, should never be attempted by amateurs.

**No, not naive nor divorced without an attorney nor tried to take my ex's life savings (that's a complete joke considering that I made more money for a lot of the marriage while being responsible for the kids & house) yet I walked away with no equity (gave him the full-furnished house without a fight), no cash money, the car with the negative equity. Again you must not remember the conversation you and I had in regards to my particular case.

As far as some of the supposedly child-abusive behaviour you described is concerned, there are three schools of thought about the most productive way to handle impudent, disrespectful behaviour by children toward their father. The "modern", liberal approach is to threaten a "time out". This may have some success if the parent has enough self-discipline to adhere to whatever this implies to the child, including loss of certain privileges. Unfortunately this method, of course, requires that the child be in the custody of the offended parent at all times--hardly the true scenario for a divorced man who seldom gets to see his child, is it? The other two approaches involve either a reasoned, methodical form of physical punishment --such as "spanking"--which would no doubt be amplified by the child in the retelling, while his own culpability is diminished. This really leaves only the type of frustrated, "at the end of his rope" behaviour you described, as the only viable alternative to allowing the child to behave in any way he may wish.

**Supposed child abuse, I guess you don't think smacking a kid upside the head, holding one up by their throat and calling them degrading names is abuse? This isn't spanking. So now your saying that kids are liars too. No child deserves to be abused regardless of their behavior. Interesting to think that my son who was playing with his dad's head phones deserved to be smacked in the head, and that my daughter who couldn't move fast enough to get her shoes on deserved to be dragged through the house. I'd love to hear what behavior by a 6 year old makes being called a little b!tch warranted, a shithead, a ratfink or a dipshit...we are not talking about disrespectful kids, we are talking about a father who thinks that as long as he hasn't laid the kids out with his fists then whatever else he does is just fine. I'm not lumping all non-custodial fathers into one category as you do with all women, cause most men would not treat their children this way. So the little comment you made about how a man who doesn't have full-time with their children are doing (oh and justifibly so) this is false...first my ex did a lot of this when we were married which is part of the reason we got divorced but also as I said before the majority of non-custodial fathers Do NOT abuse their kids. Can't blame women (or children) for this one. Why am I not surprised to hear that you think abuse of a child is justified...

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