germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
Posts: 795
Loc: NJ
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[quote]I have only 1 child and have been with my boyfriend (not the father of my child) for 10 months today. My boyfriend now lives in spartanburg which is an hour and 1/2 away from where me and my ex currently live. He is in a posistion where he cannot move down here and i am strongly considering moving there. [/quote]
A'sMama-
Why would you uproot your child from his father for a BOYFRIEND?? Is this a fiance? What if you move there, and then he dumps you. Then what kind of pickle would you be in. I can see why the father of your child does not want you to move. It's not for a better job. It's for a boyfriend! stay put for your child's sake. At least they'll see their father on a regular basis.
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Aubreys Mama
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Reged: 05/07/08
Posts: 16
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I refer to the father of my child as a sperm donar the only reason why he remotely was trying to get custody or joint custody is because 1- his mother is pushing him to do so, 2- so he doesnt have to pay child support. The guy that i am dating yes we are planning on getting married in the future but we want to live together first before making that commitment. He adores my daughter and has done more for her then her father. so its not like i am moving in with a fling. I would not be dating somebody and allowing them to be in my childs life if it was not going to be long term.
and she will see her father on a regular basis whether i live here or more it just means that i have to drive an hour to meet him halfway when he gets her and brings her back. I cannot live at my mothers forever andi cannot afford to live on my own with a child esp with no support like it has been
Edited by Aubreys Mama (05/07/08 12:56 PM)
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EZmark
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Reged: 06/04/07
Posts: 292
Loc: Florida
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"I refer to the father of my child as a sperm donar"
"He adores my daughter and has done more for her then her father."
"He is in a posistion where he cannot move"
"Me and my ex are going to court next week over custody"
"I cannot live at my mothers forever"
>>>>>>>>>>.
He's not sperm donor he's dad. R U just a vag for BF?. New BF's problems don't matter! Dad will pay child support no matter what, the money will actually support the child and not YOU when she is with dad.
YOU need to support your child too and stop leaching off your mother. You are selfish and have a undeserved sense of entitlement, probably from overly generous mom. YOU are wasting your kids future financially and YOU are putting her through a custody battle to get what YOU want, in the end there will be a lot less for YOU too. It amazes me these women who would burn the house down to cook themselves eggs.
Why not move and enjoy yourself with BF, live together get married whatever YOU desire, and drive to see your child as often as possible until you can both arrange a move be in her current school system. Think of all the free time you'll have with BF to make sure it's right, and you'll find out if he's willing and you're still willing to move for your daughter. That's what I would have you do, or would that be too inconvenient for YOU?
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
Posts: 3190
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[quote]I refer to the father of my child as a sperm donar the only reason why he remotely was trying to get custody or joint custody is because 1- his mother is pushing him to do so, 2- so he doesnt have to pay child support. The guy that i am dating yes we are planning on getting married in the future but we want to live together first before making that commitment. He adores my daughter and has done more for her then her father. so its not like i am moving in with a fling. I would not be dating somebody and allowing them to be in my childs life if it was not going to be long term.
and she will see her father on a regular basis whether i live here or more it just means that i have to drive an hour to meet him halfway when he gets her and brings her back. I cannot live at my mothers forever andi cannot afford to live on my own with a child esp with no support like it has been [/quote]
You chose to have a child with the father (even if it was an accident, you still chose to have sex with him). The long-distance parenting plan sucks for babies. It involves long periods of time away from both parents. At a time when the baby needs frequent contact.
Not to mention that the father can contest the move and end up with custody. Or you could (and should) end up paying all of the transportation costs.
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totllylost
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Reged: 05/25/06
Posts: 32
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If you don't ever remember another piece of advice you are given, PLEASE remember this one!!!! Because I learned this the hard way.
THE PERSON YOU ARE DIVORCING IS NOT THE SAME PERSON YOU WERE MARRIED TO AND FELL IN LOVE WITH!
Meaning she will not do anything you would expect her to do kindly and will do things that you may never expect she would do.
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