soccermoma
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Reged: 05/04/08
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Ok, the time has come to go to our mediation appointment, my ex is still standing firm about taking our 8 year old 2-3 nights during the week overnight, plus weekends. He is moving over 40 miles away from her school at the end of the month. Am I wrong to fight this? He takes her two Saturdays a month now?
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PinkRose
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Reged: 07/09/07
Posts: 1753
Loc: Not sure!!!
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I think you are right in fighting this. If he is 40 miles
from her school and wants her on school nights, how early
will she have to get up so that he can take her to school
and get to work on time? I don't really see how he can
realistically do this. Of course, school will be out for
the summer soon. Where will she go on summer days?
good luck to you.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3112
Loc: Florida
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[quote]Ok, the time has come to go to our mediation appointment, my ex is still standing firm about taking our 8 year old 2-3 nights during the week overnight, plus weekends. He is moving over 40 miles away from her school at the end of the month. Am I wrong to fight this? He takes her two Saturdays a month now? [/quote]
That makes him the primary caregiver...as it gives you only 2-3 overnights per week.
Too much of a jump from two Saturdays a month right now for any judge to order, but I've always been told to ask for more than what you expect so that you can mediate down to what is acceptable.
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
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I would fight that. 40 miles away is too much of a commute. And he is asking for primary residence.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
Posts: 3092
Loc: Colorado
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What do you see as a reasonable schedule? You need to get clear on this question. It will be the first second thing you'll discuss in mediation.
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soccermoma
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I am willing to do 1st 3rd and 5th Friday to Sunday with a dinner visit during the week
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Jada
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[quote]I am willing to do 1st 3rd and 5th Friday to Sunday with a dinner visit during the week [/quote]
Given the distance that he created, that is a reasonable schedule. What about the summertime? Standard plans usually have extended time during this period.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
Posts: 3092
Loc: Colorado
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OK, good, there's room to negotiate. Keep in mind that the negotiating tactic Mistake mentions is probably in play here.
Open with what you would have in a perfect world and negotiate towards what you consider acceptable.
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soccermoma
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Reged: 05/04/08
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He got 1st 3rd and 5th Friday to monday am, he was hard on what he wanted and this is the best i could get for the next 90 days, now its onto fighting the support
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