This lady is just some random person out there, that decided to physically harm your child because your child didn't agree with her. This lady is NOT a step-mother, just soem random lady. Thats like walking through Wal-mart, and some lady reaches over and slaps your kid....... you gonna take that? Hell no.....
We're having an issue with little girl (step daughter) telling lies. We've gone the restriction from screen time, earlier bed time, etc etc etc... I suggested to DH what my momma used to do.... wash my mouth out with soap. DH talked to the biomomma and she agreed. So next time little girl lies she is gonna get a mouth full of suds.
Here is a little irony.... When I discussed this with my own momma, she said to make sure that the soap was free from chemicals, perfumes, and dyes..... WTF?!?!?!?! Wasn't this the same woman who came at me with a bar of LAVA soap?!?!?! not a nice new fresh bar, but one full of grease because my momma worked at the mill.... mumble... chemical... mumble fragrance free.... LOL I thought it was funny. BTW, we use Ivory in the house and that's what little girl is gonna get.
To some this would border on corporal punishment. This is why both DH and I run it by the biomomma to get her feedback.
[quote]I don't know if it gets better. For me, the step parent in my first divorce is ok by me. She is a good person, and if she felt my son needs time out or something then so be it. I really trust her judgement. But the gf in my sitch right now, I don't know the chick. All I know about her is that she is still married and dating my still married to me stbx. You know? So, I don't know if I would be able to trust her at all around my girls. It sux and I think that my sitch makes it even harder to tell. Would I knock a knot on her head for hitting my girls? Probaly. Is it because of the sitch? Probaly. That is a tough one. You never know who these ppl are. If my stbx and I were already divorced and she came into the pic. and tried to discipline my kids and I knew her and trusted her judgement (because yes, kids act up badly sometimes)then it would be different all the way around. I hate to sound flip flop on this one but I think it is diff. in most everyone's lives. [/quote]
This is the crux of the issue. Do you trust the person who is disciplining your child? Do you even know them? If this is not a married partner (or long term common-law) then the issue of discipline shouldn't even be of their concern. If someone was babysitting your child would it be OK for them to use physical punishment? I'm pretty sure not!!!This woman was a temporary babysitter, and to make matters worse she must have known she did something wrong or she would not have asked your daughter not to tell you.
Christine
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