Kingssman
Gold
Reged: 05/09/08
Posts: 122
Loc: Peoria Illinois
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For some reason I have a tendency to get along better with women than I do men. Perhaps its from my upbringing of 4 sisters and 2 female cousins.
I make friends easier with women. It's embarrasing that I invited 8 of them to my wedding and only 4 guys.
Course being a married man I backed away from those friendships (not to make the ole wife jealous).
Now that I'm divorced, I kind of opened myself back up. Not keeping some of those old friends so far out of reach. My online friend and I got little closer as I opened up my personality to her more.
I even encountered an old college friend whom we've been spending some fun time together with, plus practice my dating and flirting skills.
I'm hoping I'll find the one with that special chemistry that we hit off so very well. I haven't done the online dating scene fully yet, but hopefully once I get practice I'll jump into that pool of fish.
Oddly enough, I do picture my next wedding to have groomswomen on my side instead of groomsmen, since lately thats whom i've been connecting again frienship wise.
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aspect
Platinum
Reged: 01/08/08
Posts: 497
Loc: Texas
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Rules for dating? How bout some observations and tips instead?
1. If they seem crazy on the phone, it's a good indicator they are crazy in person. Probably not a good idea to invite them to a concert, and then uninvite them once you've met. 
2. Telling someone that you are still in love with your wife is a great way of getting yourself out of future dates with that person.
3. Don't be afraid to be nervous. I've found most of my dates are equally as nervous if not more. Just relax and be yourself. That's who they'll eventually get to know anyway.
4. If you have allergies, take your Allegra before meeting someone at the Starbucks patio.
5. Surprisingly, driving a car with a big penguin on the side isn't as embarrassing to your dates as you might think.
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rdpotter
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Reged: 02/01/06
Posts: 93
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I totally agree, Isitover. No, life isn't too bad being on your own. In fact, I am really enjoying it. I was in a committed relationship for 25 years for crying out loud. I can handle some time alone. But out of the blue, sometimes you meet a man that you really like, that makes you feel great and there's lots of chemistry and you realize that it has been so long since a man made you feel special and you get your hopes up. When it comes to relationships, my head seems to shut down and my heart takes over. It's not about the physical with me although I have to be attracted to him. It's so much about personality and the way he treats others. I totally agree, take your time, don't compromise your needs and wants. I feel like a newborn in this game though. It's weird, it feels like when you are going after that job you really want. You have to go through a ton of interviews and get rejected over and over again or you realize it's not right for you and you leave, before you get where you want to go. But over the years, I have learned that a job is just a job. It's hard for me to be as thick-skinned about a man I care about. Sigh, I guess I better learn or as Taryn suggests, take a break. I don't do casual well. I guess that's why when it does happen, it hits me hard.
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rdpotter
Silver
Reged: 02/01/06
Posts: 93
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ha ha aspect. you make me laugh. You're well on your way. Women love funny men. Keep it up Kingsman. Lots of great relationships between men and women start off as friendships. I think it's one of the best ways.
Taryn, you make me laugh too and you're right. It's okay to take a break too. Although I am not sure I can sit there and be bored out of my mind, I might just fall asleep or make some excuse and scadaddle out of there. Nothing does me in faster than a man or woman who likes to talk on and on and isn't interested in what you have to say. This is definitely an activity not for the faint hearted.
Now I know we're all kinda in the same boat.
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Kingssman
Gold
Reged: 05/09/08
Posts: 122
Loc: Peoria Illinois
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so far the hardest part I still find after having my heart ripped out and head split open from the divorce is erasing all those past memories with the ex and treating a girl as something new, not comparing with the old.
OH well.
either I can try and have a nice date with a decent girl from a christian dating site or have hot meaningless sex from adultfriendfinder, any cup of booze from the two will hopefully numb the pain.
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