ttp1
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Reged: 12/03/07
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i agree jersey.. thank you for your posts too btw. I am going to use the police report as another thing she neglected to follow in the guidelines. We'll see what happens, hopefully it will be further ammo for down the road for when she continues to mess up will result in me having full custody of my child.. one can only hope.. it is a long road, but I am very diligent in following up and keeping track of things.
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jersey girl
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Reged: 08/07/06
Posts: 1629
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Just want to be realistic. My ex is in court right now on 13 counts of contempt including taking my kids across state lines, not returning them until police were involved and filing a false itinerary for the trip.
I have spent $5000 on legal costs. Trial is in July. Best I can hope for is some tightening of the wording and maybe he pays my fees.
and that is custodial interference. The stuff you have is not a drop in the bucket compared to what they see everyday.
while you are documenting, don't forget that you need to move forward. Sometimes documentation does nothing except keep you chained to your past.
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ttp1
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def. not chained to my past, just a big believer in if I play fair, she should be bound to those same rules.. rules are rules.
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Starion
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Reged: 03/04/08
Posts: 142
Loc: South Florida
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IMO it is mickey mouse - 10 minutes away - big deal. IMO the courts have a lot more important and pressing things to be doing. My ex bounces around a lot and has moved probably 10 times in the last 7 years. She never informed the court and I never made an issue about it. Child endangerment and abuse is one thing - a serious thing - but this move thing isn't.
IMO you need to be careful about which things your pursue. Courts tend to start blowing off people who continually file motions on stuff that really has no impact on the child/children.
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jersey girl
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Reged: 08/07/06
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TTP,
Your post said: just a big believer in if I play fair, she should be bound to those same rules
You are still asking other people to change your ex. The ONLY thing you can control is you. You cannot control your ex and neither can civil laws. You can document, but what we are all trying to say is that the ex will in all likelihood not be held accountable for these actions because they are small potatoes and not impacting the kids in a meaningful way.
In a perfect world, everyone plays by the rules. But they don't and you are wasting a TON of emotional energy on trying to change someone's behavior that doesn't want to change.
The court is not going to stop her from moving. They might tell her shame on you for moving without proper notice. They might not. She is moving in with that person. You have no control over it.
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