PinkRose
Platinum
Reged: 07/09/07
Posts: 1828
Loc: Not sure!!!
|
|
Alabama is a fault state. Be careful.
--------------------
I'm a living sunset... there's light in my bones. You can push me to the edge, but my will is stone!
|
derkacz78
Gold
Reged: 05/07/08
Posts: 190
Loc: MIchigan
|
|
TLV:
I need to ask, why did you ask your husband to go marriage counseling with you? Can you provide a few more details on why you have moved on and fell in love right away with another guy?
What you have done is exactly what my soon to be ex-wife did to me. However, she did not give me the chance to go to marriage counseling with her. I just came home one day and she said she wanted to leave. Three days later, she was in love with another guy. I just want to know how does it feel for you??
I was not an abusive husband, I was just busy with my job and hobbies.
I guess, do you have any love left for your husband?
Thanks
|
Kingssman
Gold
Reged: 05/09/08
Posts: 131
Loc: Peoria Illinois
|
|
I second derkacz request.
My ex didn't want to do counseling. She said she tried to fix it on her end but I didn't respond. (i didn't even know she tried to fix anything)
Now she met a new guy and has found true happiness and she's jumping right into his arms with every fiber of her being.
Oh well, if she ends up living her fairy tale, so be it. She gave me up to be with someone else. I can't change that. She doubted me, was unhappy with me, I can't change that. I have to accept that she wasn't the woman for me considering how failed our marriage was.
|
mfergel
Platinum
Reged: 02/11/08
Posts: 1467
Loc: Richmond, VA
|
|
Quote:
I second derkacz request.
My ex didn't want to do counseling. She said she tried to fix it on her end but I didn't respond. (i didn't even know she tried to fix anything)
Now she met a new guy and has found true happiness and she's jumping right into his arms with every fiber of her being.
Oh well, if she ends up living her fairy tale, so be it. She gave me up to be with someone else. I can't change that. She doubted me, was unhappy with me, I can't change that. I have to accept that she wasn't the woman for me considering how failed our marriage was.
Plus three. Said she would go to at least one session. After I started going, she decided she didn't need counseling, that she was fine the way she is. One week after I moved out, she's with Jason. Those two can rot in hell together.
--------------------
Damn it's good to laugh again.
|
juliacinaz
Platinum
Reged: 02/03/08
Posts: 911
|
|
[quote
Plus three. Said she would go to at least one session. After I started going, she decided she didn't need counseling, that she was fine the way she is. One week after I moved out, she's with Jason. Those two can rot in hell together.
Do you think she was seeing Jason during your marriage? Or it just happened and she quit the counseling? Mine denied cheating but I saw all the signs.
|
Jada
Platinum
Reged: 06/02/07
Posts: 3463
|
|
Alabama is a state that takes fault(such as cheating) into consideration when it comes time to divide up the assets and debt.
No, I did not date while I was still married (and being in the process of divorce is still married).
Your stbx is making a big deal because, well, you cheated. And by cheating on him, you put his life at risk. Ever heard of HIV/AIDS? Not to mention STDs.
|
Jada
Platinum
Reged: 06/02/07
Posts: 3463
|
|
Quote:
I thought it about it many times before but didn't think I could make it on my own. I know different now. I know that I should have filed before but sometimes things just don't happen in the right order.
Cheating is a choice. It doesn't just happen.
|
mfergel
Platinum
Reged: 02/11/08
Posts: 1467
Loc: Richmond, VA
|
|
Quote:
[quote
Plus three. Said she would go to at least one session. After I started going, she decided she didn't need counseling, that she was fine the way she is. One week after I moved out, she's with Jason. Those two can rot in hell together.
Do you think she was seeing Jason during your marriage? Or it just happened and she quit the counseling? Mine denied cheating but I saw all the signs.
She never went to counseling. Said she would go with me but didn't. She says she met him about a week before we separated and that he had asked for her number but she didn't give it too him until a couple of weeks later. I think bull crap. I think she had met him before we were separated. No, I don't think she did anything physically, but I think she had been talking too him, etc.
--------------------
Damn it's good to laugh again.
|
tookway2much
Platinum
Reged: 03/31/08
Posts: 627
Loc: Going toward the light!
|
|
Most of us on this forum are grieving from losing a spouse, one way or another. Not because we screwed around with someone on our spouse, and now in love. So it's hard to answer that question. But as long as your in love with the other person, all the pain you caused is erased. "NOT"
--------------------
I don't worry about the people in my past. There is a reason they are not in my future.
|
theanswerguy
Platinum
Reged: 04/12/07
Posts: 2267
|
|
I'd love to know how " survivable " a relationship like this could be . How could the other person fully trust their partner knowing they hadn't bothered to end their prior relationship before starting another . Seems like a recipe for future disaster to me .
--------------------
Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
|
Previous
Index
Next
Threaded
Edit
Reply
Quote
