taryn
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Reged: 05/31/07
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IF this is not a spoof or whatever it's called when someone makes up a thread,
i dont think this person will be heard from again.
as for 'cheating' relationships lasting...i know a LOT of them that stay together for a long time and even get married.
yeah THAT'S fair and just....UH@ NOT!
just saying...
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Armor
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Reged: 10/27/06
Posts: 438
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as for 'cheating' relationships lasting...i know a LOT of them that stay together for a long time and even get married.
yeah THAT'S fair and just....UH@ NOT!
just saying...
I think in those situations there is actually some poetic justice there...first, they both KNOW they are with somebody who will cheat, so there will be some distrust of eachother right from the start, and they are both stuck with somebody who has some moral/ethical/personality faults...really I think in the long run, the person who didn't cheat comes out ahead and gets the best deal out of the whole mess every time. He/she is no longer with a cheater, and is free to find somebody who is trustworthy...just my take on it...
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derkacz78
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Reged: 05/07/08
Posts: 190
Loc: MIchigan
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Quote"IF this is not a spoof or whatever it's called when someone makes up a thread,
i dont think this person will be heard from again." END QUOTE.
Ya where is TLV?
We are just asking questions to find out what/how it feels for her. I just wanted to pick their mind.
I am not beating them up for cheating, although I should, but that is not what I want to do. I just want to know what she was thinking when she left her husband.... what was going through her head when she left him while she was still married.
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Armor
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Reged: 10/27/06
Posts: 438
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I am not beating them up for cheating
Agreed...I doubt there is a single person on this forum who hasn't done something stupid, immoral, questionable, illegal, ect ect ect, at one point in time or another. I know I have. It's not for any of us to brand the scarlet letter on anybody else here and bash them for it, IMO. Like the old saying goes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"...lol
Having said that, I do feel that her question wasn't necessarily appropriate *for this particular forum*, as she wasn't looking for help to save a marriage, or to make changes about herself, ect., but was wondering if it was ok to keep seeing the guy she was cheating with before her divorce was final. Which IMO isn't a good idea, she should keep her pants on until the divorce is over with. But I don't think we need to bash her, I think that people who cheat end up setting themselves up for enough pain and grief all by themselves anyway...
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movingon2
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Reged: 12/06/07
Posts: 209
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"I think in those situations there is actually some poetic justice there...first, they both KNOW they are with somebody who will cheat, so there will be some distrust of eachother right from the start, and they are both stuck with somebody who has some moral/ethical/personality faults...really I think in the long run, the person who didn't cheat comes out ahead and gets the best deal out of the whole mess every time. He/she is no longer with a cheater, and is free to find somebody who is trustworthy...just my take on it"
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True statement eloquently put in a nutshell! I agree with you 100% 
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sohurt
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Reged: 03/14/07
Posts: 167
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I agree. Why is it people who cheat feel like there new relationship will be story book?
Get a clue. If you're a cheater and worse you're with someone who cheated also do you really expect things to work out?
I know my ex thinks that way but time will tell.
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lrk1
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Reged: 10/17/07
Posts: 95
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My biggest observation is that people that cheat don't seem to have a concious, at least the majority of them. I guess I am really talking about someone who finds a relationship outside of the marriage and not a one night stand, not that either one is ok. They cheat, get caught, throw the other person around in front of the kids during the divorce, spend money on the other person instead of their kids, make life h e l l for their non-cheating spouse and the list goes on. I know their are exceptions to the rule but cheaters seem to be morally corrupt across the board. Just my take
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startinover06
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 121
Loc: Michigan
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Those two can rot in hell together.
AMEN!! I definitely deserve better too.... now, if only I could find him!!!
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Lacy1
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Reged: 03/06/08
Posts: 159
Loc: Coastal Area
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I was emotionally and psychologically abused for years before I was physically abused but I never cheated. Two wrongs does not make a right.
Everybody has their own way of dealing with things.
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His loss not mine
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julestn
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Reged: 06/14/08
Posts: 44
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Hello, this was the right thing that you have done. I don’t think that you were wrong.
All the best!
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