Divorce Support Forums: Are men finally getting the message?

i wish I had seen that BEFORE I got married. So much of it is ABSOLUTELY true.

Here are my favorite quotes from the blog:

"Even politically liberal men complained to me that they feel that the bar has only been raised with little reward. Career women are more demanding of men financially and in addition are independent and ready to walk at a moment's notice. So what's the point?"

>>> Indeed. "Career women" really ARE much more demanding of their husbands, and since they are so independant, they are more willing to simply walk out of the marriage without notice.

"It's all because women priced themselves out of the market offering nothing in return. Marriage once guaranteed sex, it no longer does. It still does guarantee support of the wife. That means the husband to be is offering a guarantee enforced by law and the wife to be is not. What's in marriage for the husband again?"

>>>> The wife almost always gets support of some kind, even in a situation where there is equal visitation of the children. Regardless of who broke the marital contract. In a truly fair system, if the visitation is 50/50, and the wife chose to leave, then there would be no alimony/CS paid to the wife. She chose to leave, she should have to deal with the consequences of her decision.

"Regardless of how infatuated or "in love" men may feel to be, the base-rate statistics about marriage can be useful. I believe that the research suggests the following:

1).About half of all marriages fail.
2) About 2/3 of divorces are initiated by females"

>>>> So 50% of marriages end in divorce, and the wife is the one that initiates the divorce about 66% of the time. Why is it then that the woman is awarded primary custody >80% of the time and recieves large child support payments or alimony roughly the same 80% of the time?

Here is something ELSE that recently was brought to my attention: My stbx and I are separated...have been for close to 9 months. We are not technically divorced yet. If she were to go out and cheat on me and get pregnant, *I* would be responsible for that new baby, regardless of the fact that she got pregnant by some other guy outside of our marriage. I would be legally FORCED to pay child support for a child that is not even MINE because despite the fact that she acted like a wh0re, we are still married, and I would be expected to provide financially for my wife's baby, even though it would not be mine. The actual biological father of the baby could simply walk away if he chose to, secure in the fact that his child would be paid for by some other guy whos wife he impregnanted.

If THAT isn't the perfect example of how the legal system is biased towards the female, I dont know what is.

YEah, I think I'm gonna stay single from now on.

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