Divorce Support Forums: blind date

I talked with a guy on-line one night, gave him my cell phone number, drove to a parking lot (at a restaurant) to meet him. He got in my car and we drove back to my house-but I wouldn't let him go in. (I know, not the smartest or safest thing I have ever done. I was all alone-the kids were with my ex. Stupid loneliness!) He wanted to fool around-I told him "no, my ex-cheated on me and I was just tested for STD's and haven't gotten the results yet". Then, he asked to borrow money from me! I told him no it was time to take him back to his car. Then, weeks later, out of the blue the weirdo calls me on my cell phone (at work) and again asks to borrow money.

I must look like a sucker. I met a guy on-line when I was first divorced. We talked for a few weeks-then I met him (I should have gone with my first instinct when I saw he was missing teeth (hope I don't offend anyone)). But, I was so desparate for attention I wound up dating him for 4 months-my kids HATED him (I know, you don't have to say it- they met him too soon). I loaned him about $4,000 during that time-he promised to, but he never paid me back-I even took him to small claims court. He was ordered to pay $100/month he paid about $450 over 6 months-then stopped. LOSER!

Then I dated a guy who would set up a date w/me then blow me off. One night we were supposed to go out for dinner. I deliberately skipped lunch so I would have a good appetite. He was going to call me on his way home from work (he was a car salesman and got out of work at 5:00 on Fridays). It took him about an hour to get home from where he worked. So I waited for the call 7:00-8:00-9:00-nothing. I called him-no answer. Finally he calls at 9:45 and tells me he got tied up at work and to meet him at his apt-we will order pizza. So I get there at about 10:10-all the pizza places I passed were closed. He wasn't there yet, so I waited. He pulled up talking on his cell phone. We walk into his apt-he is still on his cell phone. We get inside, he gets off the phone, I told him all the pizza places were closed. Then, he says he has frozen pizzas (I don't care I am starving!) preheats the oven, says he is going to change, goes in the bedroom, comes out to go in the bathroom-on the cell phone again, goes back in his bedroom and shuts the door. I was sitting in his living room for a 1/2 hour-ALONE- when I got up and left. I was halfway home when he called me-wondering why I left. He claims he was talking with his teenage daughter-no apology. He told me he would call me the next day-I never heard from him.

Then a few months later, I saw him on-line again. He said he wanted to see me again-I was willing to give it another chance. Told me he would call later that day-by 9:00 I hadn't heard from him. When I called he made up some excuse about he thought I was going to call him. I went over anyway. Then 2 days later the same thing. We set something up-he never called. So, that was the end of that. Something about him just did not seem right.

Anyway, after months of this type of crap, I was about to give up. Then I met my husband on-line. We will be married 3 years next month.