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      #210731 - 06/07/08 05:44 AM (75.214.219.94)
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My husband was in the navy for 18 years and is now serving in the army reserve for three years to finish his retirement. We are getting a divorce on the grounds of him having affairs. We have been married for 22 years. Will I be able to have health and retirement benefits?

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Re: health and retirement [Re: hart2]
      #210753 - 06/07/08 10:56 AM (72.218.33.84)
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Unfortunately, you will fall under the 15 year rule. Your Tricare benefits will continue for 1 year post divorce. To qualify for the 20/20/20 rule, the marriage needs to overlap 20 years of military service in your case it is 18 years. I am sorry for what you are going through. I wish you well.

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Re: health and retirement [Re: movingon2]
      #210835 - 06/07/08 07:20 PM (24.18.156.194)
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My husband of 38 years left me for another woman. I don't qualify for the 20/20/20 rule for medical benefits--have 19 years 7 months. Now am scrambling to find health benefits that will allow me keep seeing my same doctors (and benefits that I can afford).

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Re: health and retirement [Re: Seagal]
      #210845 - 06/07/08 08:09 PM (65.6.194.126)
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Many people that are in this situation have the judge hold off on signing the final decree until the 20 years is completed.

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      #210846 - 06/07/08 08:14 PM (24.18.156.194)
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Sorry should have explained better. My husband is already retired with 21 years 9 months of service. We've been married 38 years of which 19 years 7 months overlap his 21 years 9 months. I have some heath issues that will make it difficult (and expensive) for me to get my own health insurance.

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      #210849 - 06/07/08 08:23 PM (65.6.194.126)
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Is the divorce final? If not, request that he pay for your health care coverage.

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      #210864 - 06/07/08 09:35 PM (24.18.156.194)
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He moved out on May 10 and I got served with divorce papers the following week. He's not answering any messsages from me or his family. Only contact is with my lawyer thru his lawyer. I've addressed my heath care with my lawyer as one of my one big issues. But because I'm still working (was going to retire in a year), what I'm hearing from his lawyer is that I can be responsible for my own health insurance.

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      #210879 - 06/07/08 10:45 PM (72.218.33.84)
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Seagal,

Let your attorney guide you, as to what his attorney thinks or says, OH WELL. You've been married for 38 years and he left you for someone else? When push comes to shove, your husband if not willing may be forced to help with your medical costs.

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      #210881 - 06/07/08 11:02 PM (24.18.156.194)
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I have so many issues to deal with. Sent my lawyer 3 emails so far this weekend. One of the biggest issues is my health care insurance. I'm about one year away from retirement and now looks like I'll be working for awhile. Yes, married for 38 years. Found out two months ago that he is having an affair. Thought that we would be able to work it out but it continued. He packed up and moved out less than a month ago. He has his military retirement and I'll have my job as my source of income. I'm still at the point of shock and disbelief that this has happened to me. Everything is still up in the air. But my biggest worry is getting affordable heath insurance with my health issues.

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Re: health and retirement [Re: Seagal]
      #210886 - 06/07/08 11:29 PM (72.218.33.84)
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He has his military retirement...nineteen years and seven months worth or almost 50% of that retirement could be awarded to you since it is considered marital property. But any retirement you may have coming from your job, well the same applys for him...I am sorry for your situation...38 years married..sometimes people do crazy things, but when they finally come to their senses it is usually too late. Chances are by the time he comes knocking on your door, you won't care anymore. Hang in there and stay focused...you will survive this.

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