Divorce Support Forums: Reimbursement power struggle

[quote][quote]You set yourself up for one big power struggle when you refused to come to an agreement and worded it the way you did. You can't blame it entirely on your ex.[/quote]

I believe I'm taking my share of responsibility for this. I don't see where I'm blaming my ex.

I hope you intend 2nd person plural when you say, "You refused to come to an agreement."

My lawyer told me that "normal" extracurriculars were covered by child support but we could tack on more if we deemed our situation special. I realize that normal is subjective. You claim that no extracurriculars are covered by CS. My information is probably specific to Colorado. Where does your information come from?

My personal experience in negotiating a divorce agreement is that you're not going to be able to get crisp resolution on every issue. My divorce took 1-1/2 years to work out. At some point you reach a point of diminishing returns and you go with the best you can do and you hope that a bit of time post-divorce will help smooth things out, which it absolutely has for many of our points of friction. [/quote]

New Jersey. And ordinary extracurricular activities are included in child support. Such as the soccor registration for the kids in the fall.

Extraordinary extracurricular activities, such as ballet and karate (which are recurring with a set tuition, usually more than the soccor which is $20 a child).

However; extracurricular activities don't have to be split if it isn't addressed in the court order. In any state.

It is addressed, albeit vaguely, in your court order.

You would mean both you and your ex.