maggiethecat
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sorry, guys, if my freakin' lawyer would call me back i wouldn't bombard you....
ok, so my ex has moved into a rental (still hasn't given me the keys to the house) and he's taken all OUR stuff with him. family pictures, all the tv's and electronics, etc. now what, i mean, posession is 9/10 right? ticks me off. said he'd divide the pics of the kids with me (shared parenting) but he just packed them all up and moved them to his new place....what can i do?
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Loc: NJ
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It will get ordered in your decree that the stuff gets split. Now, getting it back from him will be another story. Just because an order is made doesn't mean it will get fulfilled. If the judge finds out your stbx is doing this kind of crap, it won't look very good for his case. That's the only positive spin on the situation.
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Jada
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[quote]sorry, guys, if my freakin' lawyer would call me back i wouldn't bombard you....
ok, so my ex has moved into a rental (still hasn't given me the keys to the house) and he's taken all OUR stuff with him. family pictures, all the tv's and electronics, etc. now what, i mean, posession is 9/10 right? ticks me off. said he'd divide the pics of the kids with me (shared parenting) but he just packed them all up and moved them to his new place....what can i do? [/quote]
Get a locksmith and have them open the house. And then change the locks and get an appraiser in there to do an appraisal.
Write down everything that he took. Chances are he will be able to keep it. But will get less of the equity from the house to compensate you for what he should have shared with you.
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yukon0928
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Reged: 07/07/06
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Loc: Oklahoma
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Ex filed the same day signed on our home to sell. I had 6 weeks to move and ex had already moved hours away. He said he would help with the move and at temp hearing, my lawyer said don't plan on it. So, I got what I wanted boxed and ready. Ex calls and says to me, have the movers bring the stuff to where he lived and we would store it. I said, don't think so. Then his lawyer sent my lawyer a letter wanting everything inventoried. I told him that I was leaving things behind and that ex had already taken 30% of our things when he moved away a few years ago. He goes take everything you want...everything, otherwise you will never see it again. Sure enough during the divorce I gave my inventory list and ex didn't. So at final, ex didn't want the stuff due to having to come get it so he just let me have it. I did have to leave some things ...ie Xmas stuff and he PROMISED that I could get it from him. Well, he threw it away or something and never saw it again. Always make sure you get the things you want because most likely you will never see again and taking back to court even if awarded is not worth it.
He was awarded(fought like hell over) some guns I had and I told him he can come get them just let me know when. Never heard another thing about them and that was over a year ago. I'm sure he would like them, but to lazy to come get. Oh well his loss.
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What will I lose
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Reged: 05/21/07
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Loc: PA
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as everyone has stated, this is gonna look REAL bad for him so i'm getting more and more confident things will go your way, at least on paper. Maybe your nice low appraisal will be used and they will ignore his given this new circumstance.
I see too many judge judy cases where she asks 'do you have the teddy bear' and they answer no..and she has to leave it at that or maybe offer the value of the teddy bear for the distraught person. So you may not see your stuff back. But i hope you do.
oh attys NEVER call back...get used to it.
I just called mine for 2nd day in row and after 3 months they are finally gonna mail me a list of stuff they need...but if i never called, they never would have asked.
told my wife this, and said CALL your atty every day until you get this over with...she doesnt like living here and having to deal with all this crap
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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What will I lose
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Reged: 05/21/07
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Loc: PA
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[quote]Ex filed the same day signed on our home to sell. I had 6 weeks to move and ex had already moved hours away. [/quote]
was the home in his name? I was positively told i cannot refi my house (much less sell it) because my wife is on the deed
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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.
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2NoCharm
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Reged: 03/05/08
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It's a game. You have realized this, I'm sure. Attorneys all seem to be on a "side of their own" to make money. The more you can negotiate WITHOUT them, the better. Sadly, we all realize this AFTER the divorce is FINAL. They prey on emotions. Good luck to you. My bet is that, in a year or so, you will both agree that you were "had".... That monay you spend on emails. calls to the attorney, conferences to his assistant, etc. will seem so pathetic/unnecessary. If I could give quality advice, I would say COOL OFF.......THEN NEGOTIATE! No matter what you feel is unfair, it will be MORE UNFAIR when an attorney is involved! When we do this (negotiate)in a clear state of mind, the attorney is very helpful in the final decree - that's all. I come from a family of attorneys and I hear the chatter...and I've BEEN THERE too.
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yukon0928
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Loc: Oklahoma
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Charmed is right on about the games between lawyers. Once they see the emotions of the parties/the money they will use to THEIR advantage. It could take a year to finalize, so don't call lawyer daily etc. I had a lawyer that charged me $12.50 for her assistant taking my message. Got the bill and was charged like $200 for just asking if lawyer was in and to call me. Make sure you get copies of all important things and before a meeting/hearing call to verify what will take place. My father said to me that once ex filed to not speak with him and that he now was out of your life. Only talk to lawyer. I didn't agree. I was hoping that ex and I could talk about settling some issues and visit about the kids if needed. It actually was him agreeing on the settlement I proposed to him, but when he told his lawyer,she must of said something because he reneged and then 6 months later $20K fees..he settled to what he and I agreed to earlier. So it was his lawyer that stalemated us for one reason..$$$$.
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