Yep you beat me to it, I thought that Singledad had an excellent post, he was spot-on.
Stop the begging and crying. I truly think that is what saved my marriage. I was in counseling and we were still living together and hadn't told the boys so we would discuss my sessions and talk to hide it all. The boys left on a vacation and I took the advice of this forum and kept it all business. I cracked in one conversation and he tried to hug me and I told him that he couldn't do that anymore. Two days later he asked me back. They have to realize that we will survive AND that they can't have their cake and eat it too.
I know that would probably make a differenc if I can just do it.It's so freaking hard to do. I so badly miss him, sometimes it's just difficult to hold it in around him. But-I am going to try! Thanks!
I don't think you need to be friends with your daughter's mother. Just civil. Being friends means you share of yourself with them. You don't need to share anything of yourself. Just exchange your daughter civilly, arrange visitation civilly, etc. You don't need to be friends, and your stbx doesn't need to be telling you who you need to be friends with. Whether it's her or someone else.
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