numbnms
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[quote]My X has no problem bumming smokes off of her bf's 13 year old daughter. No joke, 13 years old. Ahhhhhh...Anybody else have a problem with that or am I just being unreasonable again? [/quote]
Sheesh Cedc lighten up a bit do you know how much smokes cost these days? She is just trying to save you money otherwise you would be back in court to pay extra for her smokes.
Incase the sarcasm was missed, no you are not wrong.
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mrpat
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Huh...............i just want them all the time cause it's the most important thing to me in life. She's a good mom but i'm a great dad and enjoy the job more and more everyday. 13 yrs and still in training.
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numbnms
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What irritated me more than her asking "why I want more custody" (her being my ex) was her explination of why she was going to get full custody......"I'm their mother". That was her some total answer. I've got 50/50 custody so I guess "I'm their Father" did actually mean something other than I have a job, granted I paid dearly for it but as I have said before was/is worth every penny.
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cedc
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Hey I didn't think about that. Your right,smokes are expensive. I guess this is why she keeps stealing my kids money too.
Is this ID for everything day of age. Where in the farg is a 13yo gettin smokes??
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numbnms
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Well as far as where she is getting the smokes that is simple, the local in an out store, noone in there can read or count anyway so its really easy. That and they are to busy carding the 90 year old grandma to be bothered carding that 13 year old that looks like they are 8.
And of course that is why she is stealing the money, she is not a bad person to be held accountable for her actions. It's the evil governements fault for taxing the evil tabacoo companys that are bound and determined to kill every man woman and child in the country as fast as possible. If the government hadnt rasied the taxes then she would have been able to afford them without stealing or if the evil tabacoo company would just sell their legal product for a loss she would be able to afford them.
Sheesh were have you been? Didn't they get the paper on what ever planet or under what ever rock you have been hiding for the last decade? People stopped being held accountable for their actions somewhere around the 90's, right around the time the hippies started being old enough to make the rules. I think it started when McDonalds lost a law suite for selling hot coffee, whenever that was.
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chatter box
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[quote]"I'm their mother". [/quote]
If I had a penny for every time I heard that. I could count on one hand how many times in five years I've heard my X call me my daughters father or dad. She did call me mother once but it ended with something that rhymed with pucker. She still can't figure out what she did was wrong and can't understand why she doesn't have custody now.
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stoltz
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Therein lies the problem with many women today - they are blinded into thinking they are entitled to everything (except CS) just because of their gender. Feminism paved the way for them to no longer accept equality, but superiority.
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theanswerguy
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Allow me to change the gender in your post from mother to father and see how you'd feel if the question was asked of you .
I've seen some women posting on here that they want sole custody. Can I ask what are your reasons for this? Do you want your ex to be less involved with your children? Are you concerned with the environment your ex is providing for them? Do you want the most child support? Is it pay back at your ex? Combination of things? Just can't live without their little faces in your life?
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Jada
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[quote]Allow me to change the gender in your post from mother to father and see how you'd feel if the question was asked of you .
I've seen some women posting on here that they want sole custody. Can I ask what are your reasons for this? Do you want your ex to be less involved with your children? Are you concerned with the environment your ex is providing for them? Do you want the most child support? Is it pay back at your ex? Combination of things? Just can't live without their little faces in your life? [/quote]
Wow, you really don't read a person's history, do you?
The FATHER in this case is CHOOSING not to have that much to do with HIS CHILD.
She's trying to understand why a father would do that. Hence the question.
I am not surprised that you would try to turn it into a gender issue.
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EZmark
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>>What irritated me more than her asking "why I want more custody"<<
I too found the premise of the question to be quite irritating and indicative of the societal problem assuming a father doesn't want to be with his children, hence my short answer earlier not wasting time justifying what should be obvious. I post again only to point out that by coming out from under her rock to hiss and encourage the stereotype Jaded once again exposes her agenda to the newer readers. Where was the helpful advice in her post? Take jaded's advice in other posts with a grain of salt, she's been beaten up quite a bit over her attitude, literally and figuratively.
As to the original question it should not need to be asked. More appropriate to ask would be why do some parents NOT want more time. Conversely IMO we "should take hats off" to the female CPs that step up and maintain personal hygiene and feed their children properly, why do they want more time with the kids? Do they have no choice since they drove away dad, or is it the C$? How many of them earn enough to support themselves and their children? Lots of valid general ?s here. Now specifically why does abby's X not spend time, it would be interesting to hear from him and her opinion as well. In my particular case the reasons are as I stated, but also include mitigating the damage being done to the kids by the narcisstic X. It had nothing to do with money, I offerred the same CS as sole custody, but she probably knew that was modifiable in the future. Control is big part of her issues. $ was also the issue for her. She wanted the CS I offerred, all the assets and $1K for life alimony (+ more) in return for agreeing to 50% parenting.
The fact is life is CHOOSING and trade offs.
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