KGrow
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The court order sounds clear to me - if camp is not free, he pays 40%. Take eiram’s suggestion and see if unexpected visitation requirement will wash with the camp. If not, find another camp for your son to go to once he returns and request 40% reimbursement from your ex for that.
If there’s nothing in the parenting plan requiring a specific amount of notice for his summer parenting time, you’ll just have to roll with it.
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hiddentreasure
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Thanks guys for all your advice. So far I overnighted a letter basically telling him why my son couldnt go. I emphasized the fact that he wanted the free camp and either way it wasnt a sufficient amount time that he gave me notification. I gave him the camp info and told him he can call them if he had any questions. I will keep you updated.
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germangirl631
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Good for you HT! Put the "monkey" on his back. Let him deal with the responsibility of his requests and actions. I hope it all works out for you.
Thanks for keeping us updated.
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KGrow
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I know he's sent mixed messages. Withholding visitation is not the right string for you to be pulling on. The other end of that string is attached to your son.
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hiddentreasure
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[quote]I know he's sent mixed messages. Withholding visitation is not the right string for you to be pulling on. The other end of that string is attached to your son. [/quote]
I am not witholding visitation. My son sees his father every other weekend as stated in the divorce decree. He is also entitled to one day in middle of the week which he chooses not to use. As far as summer HE doesnt want to pay for camp. He has not paid for afterschool or bus transportation as he is supposed to. I wanted to put my son in the ymca by my job so in case of emergency i am near him and for the flexibility. Again my ex husband does not want to pay so therefore he has to abide by the rules of the camp.
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KGrow
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[quote]I am not witholding visitation. My son sees his father every other weekend as stated in the divorce decree. He is also entitled to one day in middle of the week which he chooses not to use.[/quote]
Above I believe you said he was also entitled to 4 weeks during the summer. That time is no less sacred than the time every other weekend.
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chatter box
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[quote][quote]he was also entitled to 4 weeks during the summer. That time is no less sacred than the time every other weekend. [/quote]
He is entitled to 4 weeks but not by giving two days notice of when he wants it. He has to be reasonable with his request. Thought we already covered this.
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1227
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Is he flying or driving? Ask him when the reservations were made try to get proof so you can take it to court that he is playing stupid games and trying to stick it to you.
I doubt with as cheap as he sounds and the way airline tickets going up in price he just booked this. Most jobs also require notice for vacation and it is more than a week.
Try to get roof of this for court, bc I am sure he will try the rule to show cause that you violated his vacation.
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hiddentreasure
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kgrow - He's the one who wants a free camp as i already stated. The camps regulations are that he cannot miss more than 2 days. If my ex is to cheap to pay for a regular camp then it's not my fault his 4 weeks get screwed up. He also works from 4 to midnight and doesnt get home until about 1 sometimes 2. He leaves for work at 2:30 in the afternoon. He has no family here. So for four weeks who is my son going to be with? My ex only has 2 maybe 3 wks vacation and he alread used 2.
1227- He intends to drive there which I am also worried about because he drives with road rage. Speeds on the highway and has gotten many tickets and violations for running stop signs and exceeding speed limit. He just got into a car accident with the kids, he ran into the person in front of him. He refused medical treatment. So guess who picked them up and went to the hospital? Me.
Now for my update:
I got another certified letter which didnt address any of the issues. He rambled on about nonsense that didnt pertain to camp, vacation or anything else that he was supposed to. I also received a notice to appear in court next week. He claims that i am witholding our son from him, not allowing him to contact him and for child support. Now the moron is supposed to pay me for child support. I drop my son off every other weekend as I am supposed to. He fails to exercise his right to take him one day during the week. He never calls my phone so i will print phone records to show that he never calls. He called yesterday and said he is going to call our son every night. What a coincidence that he will start calling the day he filed the petition. We are going to see the same judge who granted the divorce. He is a no nonsense judge who probably going to take one look and throw us out the court room. Me ex is digging himself in a hole. will update you guys again.
Thanks again for your advice
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