stoltz
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Exactly. Even though I've been rung over the coals many times by women, I DON'T think they are necessarily any worse than men when it comes to a lot of issues. What I *DO* have a beef with is a system and society that gives women the PROPENSITY to act on their urges (and get away with it, so to speak) - and MANY kindly take up the offer.
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HardKnox
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[quote] Take it as a compliment and stop whining about it already. [/quote]
Why, I oughta sock your face off.
Ooops, sorry, wrong thread.
Seriously, consider that either:
A. You have never been with a woman with a serious case of whatever it is they have that requires interaction 24/7. When you are not home, they must talk on the telephone and / or listen to talk radio the entire time. EVERY WAKING MOMENT MUST BE PACKED WITH HUMAN INTERACTION OR THERE IS THIS CAVERNOUS VOID. I seriously think you have never experienced this. Or;
B. You are FAR more gregarious than I or some of the other fellas are, or;
C. Being a gourmet chef is less stressful than some other occupations (although Chef Ramsey makes me doubt this).
PS: Got any good venison recipes?
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numbnms
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a) My ex has two classifications for people ... best friends and prefect strangers. Therefore she loved to hear the sound of her own voice and insisted on subjecting it on everyone within ear shot. It was part of her and I just accepted it. She was the source code for most of the blonde jokes so suffice it to say what she was blabbering on about was about as informative as learning that grass grows more in the summer. I really should have listened more rather than just nod and grunt at the appropriate intervals. Myabe I would have noticed she was having an affair sooner.
b) No just sometimes I like poking at threads from other angles to see where they go.
c) I'm a banker and bill collector I'd trade stress levels with a chef anyday. The main source of my income depends on me getting someone else to pay money they don't have on loans they didnt need instead of paying their electric bill.(Ramsey is my hero though, he gets to tell people what he is thinking without having to be nice or politcally correct while doing so) I do love to cook and am taking culinary classes this fall to help enhance my skills in the kitchen (maybe I will stop trying to slice my fingers off). I am in MS so of course I can send you recipes for deer.
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HardKnox
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[quote] I'm a banker and bill collector [/quote]
Oh.
I thought you were a professional goumet chef.
See? I zoned out/wasn't listening again.
OT: I like making vennie stir-fry in the wok with onions and mushrooms. I sautee the onions and mushrooms in sesame oil with a splash of Vietnamese fish sauce, then take the onions and mushrooms out and sautee the vennie in Szechuan oil, then put the onions and mushrooms back in. Serve over brown rice.
Real tasty, but I'm bored with it.
I had 110 pounds of boneless vennie in the freezer.
Bachelor's delight!
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numbnms
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No harm no foul HK, I talk a lot about cooking so it would seem a natural assumption. I'll see what southern style venison recipes I can dig up. Have great buffalo with a blackberry sauce recipe ..wonder how that would translate to vinnie....may have to break out the man food and see for myself.
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malone
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[quote]It doesn't change the fact that some men (like me) need decompression time. Are we as men not even allowed this?
Like stoltz posted, it's always the MAN who has to change. It's always the MAN who is intolerant. [/quote]
Interesting. Except for the fact that the theory all goes wrong when you consider it's not just men with that problem. I have posted this elewhere recently but will say it again.
Last year, after a HELL day at work, I would get home and need 'decompression time' badly. STBX didn't have a lot of work on and would want me to immediately 'switch off' from the mega stress of my day to talking about mundane nothingness. I was not allowed to even sit quiety with the day's newspaper for 20 minutes without an argument ensuing because I found it hard to be 100% attentive listening to yakking about nothing. I certainly wasn't allowed to discuss what was on my mind, which might in fact have enabled me to move to the next stage of being able to yak about nothing.
And I am most deifnitely a woman. Albeit a working one. But so are many of the women on the forum. So tell me this. Is it that men expect to and should be the only ones allowed decompression time?
Or are women allowed this too? And if not, why not?
And its not just the men who get told they "need to change". "I needed to change." Right. I went to work, (he did too), but I went to work because my income was needed to cover everything. At the end of the day, I was expected to then become domestic goddess and pretend I'd sat at home all day, not just arrived home at 6.30pm exhausted.
So guys, are you also expected to become domestic goddesses after your full-on day at work? Or is that expectation just for women, or maybe it was just for me?
I don't know but I'm curious.
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cedc
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Vietnamese fish sauce *Drool*
I want this! Where do you get it because they don't sell it around my parts.
Got a linky for fishsauce.com?
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HardKnox
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[quote] Or are women allowed this too? [/quote]
ABSOLUTELY.
And it's just further evidence that you and I are soul-mates separated by 8000 miles of ocean.
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stoltz
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A couple of observations ...
First, I know I've mentioned this 100 tims (and I'm sure in one of my posts on this thread): ALL WOMEN AREN'T THE SAME (likewise, all men aren't the same). However, I'm willing to bet that what's been discussed IS the general case. If nothing else, read "Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus" to get an idea of the astute differences in genders when it comes to issues such as this.
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So guys, are you also expected to become domestic goddesses after your full-on day at work? Or is that expectation just for women, or maybe it was just for me?
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I think I've pretty much given my account of how a typical day goes. After getting an earful, I then have the "duty" of cooking dinner (although, she HAS gotten better in this aspect and only find myself cooking about 40-50% of the time now). Then the youngest is given his bottle (we switch off - usually). Then, it's MY job to clean up the kitchen, bag the trash, etc. Afterward, I spend a little time with the kids. Before it gets dark, I go out back and do any leftover yard work. Then I take a shower and spend a little more time with the kids (at this time, she's usually planted in front of the TV after a "hard days work"). Then we put everyone to bed and go to bed ourselves.
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malone
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I think I've just realised that you are still full-on married Stolz and talking about your current wife. So out of interest, why are you posting on a divorce forum?
I presume you're not happy then and are close to leaving your wife or you both plan to separate?
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