Divorce Support Forums: The Date

[quote]"Ladies, do us men a favor and just STFU for the first hour or so after we get home from work, unless it is something of the utmost importance. Going into every excruciating detail about some nonsensical sh*t that happened to you during the day the minute we come home from work is going to be met with a blank stare (at best) AND ABSOLUTELY NO COMPREHENSION OF WHAT YOU SAID THE SECOND YOUR MOUTH DECIDES TO SHUT. I know you need to unload all your emotions in order to "feel good", but men need the exact opposite for the first hour or so."

See? I did this. He never had to tell me. I just did it. Call it a cultural thing, but he's been out working all day/night. Give him a chance to relax and breathe.

My problem, after years of it having to dawn on me, was that it didnt matter WHEN it was that I decided to talk to him about sensless things....it was never the right time. I honestly can only think of maybe twice that I wanted to just visit with him....at an appropriate time...and I was ignored. [/quote]

Whats worse is when the things you need to talk about are IMPORTANT, yet the other spouse NEVER opens an ear no matter what time it is...
ummm, the bathtub is leaking underneath the floorboards, so they are rotted out and sooner or later someone is going to fall through the ceiling -
little Johnny is having surgery on Tuesday so I'm taking off from work, can you pick the other kids up from the babysitter?
Just a few examples.

What I hated is that this same ex would call me at work "to talk" I'd answer stating my insurance company name and I'd hear "uh, can you insure my butt or can I get an insurance quote on my butt duhhhh", like I had time to deal with stupidness.
And on the point that some males here make on wives that don't work yet don't do housework either, what about the ones that work and still have to do all the housework? I was making more money than my ex, still had full responsibility for the kids (he wanted to work an opposite shift than me and put the kids in daycare during my shift so he could do his own thing), I still did all the cooking and cleaning and laundry and even yardwork, I took care of the vehicles which for me meant bringing them to the shop cause I'm not that skilled, and I kept track of all the household bills & groceries. Yet one day he stated that I could stop working...but then he would expect to have me and dinner hot and ready when he walked in the door from his 8 hours at work. I guess in some respects I should have taken him up on it, as I was already doing it all anyhow. He wanted to put his 40 hours in at work then get waited on at home...that's all good, but what about the other spouse that is putting in their 40 hours then being 100% responsible for everything at home. I asked that once and his reply was that I had an office job so I really didn't "work".

Men and women alike need to both get off their a$$ and CONTRIBUTE. It's not fair for either to do EVERYTHING, I don't know about most of you but I got married to have a partnership.
Men - if your stay at home wife isn't doing shit, then stop picking up their slack (as much as possible anyhow).