Ryno77
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Hypothetical here. You're girlfriend is part of some kind of club...let's say a book club. There's a guy that goes there that's made inappropriate sexual comments to her on a couple occasions. He's even grabbed her ass without consent and laughed about it. She's told him to stop, but he hasn't. You decide to visit the book club with your gal and this fella mouths off and says something inappropriate...something like, "You look like you're ready to be f*cked", while you're within ear shot. You confront the guy. You get in close, as guys do, and tell him in such a way that there's no misunderstanding, "One more comment like that and you and I are going to have a problem". Ten minutes later he slaps your girlfriend's ass as she walks by him.
My Opinion, in GuyWorld, this is a clear pass to whip some ass. Not only is it a pass, but where I was raised, you're obligated to do something to cease the behavior immediately. Shove said fella into a wall. Deck him and lay him out, maybe. Whichever, but a verbal warning didn't work and this guy's a repeat offender. Clearly a physical response is appropriate, right?
Is it the pacifist thing to do? No. It might not even be the adult thing to do. I'm pretty damned convinced it's the manly thing to do, though. Am I just thinking like an immature kid or is this just one of those direct challenges to a guy's manhood that simply cannot be ignored?
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Jada
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Who says you have to ignore it? You don't have to assault a person to get the point across.
You can just have that person who just assaulted your girlfriend arrested for breaking the law. AND a restraining order slapped against him. If you go after the guy, you will be the one in jail and a restraining order.
Not only will that get the point across that he's behaving like an a$$, it will stop future assaults as he will no longer be able to attend the book club if your girlfriend is there. And if he is convicted, he will have a record that will follow him everywhere he goes.
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Nish
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Ryno,
He didn't assault the bf's manhood, he committed a crime that the lady who was assaulted, should have reported first time he touched her without her permission or consent.
He is an a##hole who clearly needs a lesson that being arrested and convicted of assault would teach him. That his type of bulliness and crudeness will not be tolerated and there are consequences for his inappropriate behavoir.
In otherwords....what Jada already said, the cops called and charges filed. The bf, may feel he is defending his lady, if he were to deck the guy. What he would be doing is, defending himself, in a court of law for assault.
Don't doubt for a minute that he would be placing a call to the cops if someone laid a hand on him. The bf and him might both end up cooling their butts in jail. Trust me, the lowlife isn't worth it.
The lady or the bf calls the cops and let's the legal system slap him on his "hypothectical" butt.
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juliacinaz
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Kick his A$$! It will be worth the night in jail. Let him hit you first then knock his lights out! Then have her file charges against him! JMHO!
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abbysfv
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That's sexual assault I would call the police and have that guy arrested.
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mfergel
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Also, if this is a club, I'd bring it to the attention of the person in charge of the club. He should be kicked out of the club.
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HardKnox
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Quote:
Am I just thinking like an immature kid or is this just one of those direct challenges to a guy's manhood that simply cannot be ignored?
You already know what I'm going to say.
And I'll tell you this, there is a whole new species of man out there that hides behind the possibility of litigation to act out in any manner they choose. I'm sorry, if this unacceptable action is directed at my wife, or my daughter (if I had one), or my sister, or my girlfriend, I'm going to take an awful lot of pleasure watching the guy crawl around on his hands and knees crying looking for his teeth I just knocked out. If I spend a night or two in the slammer, fine. I really don't care anymore.
Grabbing the girlfriends ass, huh?
I guess rather than the "teeth thing", I'd stomp his fingers until they were all broken, then. Let the punishment fit the crime.
Violently yours,
HK
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mrpat
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DITTO
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norcal
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My opinion in Girl's-World is violence is never a solution and only appropriate if she felt physically threatened...... did she?
Although your chivalry is honorable, she may be a little put off by your inability to see that she's capable of handling groping, loser on her own.
It would be completely different if she had asked you to help her with the situation, which I'm assuming she didn't?? It seems (to me) the way you described things, your reaction has more to do with defending your manhood than anything pertaining to her or her situation.
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Ryno77
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OK, so I THINK mfergal and nish are girls (sorry if you're not!) and HK and mrpat are fellas. If that's the case, so far it's a clear split based on what equipment you're sportin'.
Honestly, that's how I figured this would go. If you're a guy, something in you overrides the sense of right vs. wrong in the law's eyes and puts aside the practical repurcussions from doing what you SHOULD do and you instead do what your gut demands you to. This goes beyond logical thought and strikes a chord at the very core of what it is to be a man. It's an animalistic reaction. It's drawing on the part of you that's the alpha male in your tribe of two and forces you to protect your borders from trespassers.
Anyone remember the show Ally McBeal? Lawyer thing, Calista Flockhart(sp), whatever. There was a dood on there named "Biscuit" (I think...small guy, brilliant, very few muscles, picked on...etc...) and I clearly remember watching one episode where he was defending a guy that got into a bar brawl because someone insulted his gal.
He went on to defend by telling his own story of how he witnessed a bold insult in a bar. I don't recall if it was to him or to the person he was with. Nonetheless, he recounted how he hit the offending man, and laid him out on the floor. Then he said something close to, "As a citizen, as a civilized human being, and as a free-thinking member of society...I was deeply ashamed of my actions. <INSERT DRAMATIC PAUSE!!> But as a man, a living and breathing man, it was one of the proudest moments of my life".
Make logical sense. Nope! But I agreed with it then, and I agree with it now.
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