MommyButterfly
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If it had happen to me, and I had mention to H/BF and knew he was coming with me, then I am asking him to help with the situation. I would want him too, and would probably be cheering him on.
In my much younger days, I was grabbed-by someone who was a chronic a$$ grabber at work. The first time he grabbed me, I turned around and said "If you do that again, I will hurt you." A couple weeks later, he did it again. I turned around and punched him in the junk. He went down crying, I walked away and he never grabbed another female at work again. My Dad and 7 older brothers taught me well. 
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Norcal,
It's starting to sound like one of those stories you'd read at the book club!! oh, The intrigue. The drama. The temptress.
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HardKnox
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Reged: 06/13/07
Posts: 2764
Loc: Wisconsin
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put me up against an aggressive guy and I go deer-in-the-headlights
No worries.
Me and Mr. Pat and Ryno and cedc will go all caveman on their asses for ya.
Won't we boys?
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norcal
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Reged: 08/24/06
Posts: 999
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....and the cavemen!
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cedc
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Reged: 03/02/07
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I'm in.*rolls up sleeves*
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The main reason Santa is so jolly is because he knows where all the bad girls live.-George Carlin
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numbnms
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Is it possible she was handling the situation, but not to his satisfaction? Maybe his male pride was stung by the sight of someone touching his girl friend when in fact she was handling it.
Or you could be right, maybe as he was groping her, deep-down he was stroking her ego as well. Or maybe she even found it sexually stimulating and that's why she kept returning to the book club, secretly hoping he would reach out and grab her again.
Yea, that makes sense!
No way of knowing for certain but the poster sure implied that she was wanting help with the situation. You nor I have any clue about what turns on everyone else, there is a perversion out there for everyone and with the internet you can quickly figure out your quirk is not so rare as you would think. So do not discount she likes it. After all we are playing the what if game. Is it my imagination or are you going to the ends of the earth to make certain that a male defending a woman is wrong if it has to be through violence? Or are you just exporing hypothetical situations? If the later here is my breakdown (you probably already know this:
a) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female cannot handle and wants me to.....its handled most likely resulting in a beating, hopefully I will be the winner.
b) a$$grabbing is wanted and female wants me to let it go. It's let go but so am I.
c) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female is handling it, I stay out of (probably laughing in the corner as he rolls around the floor holding his crotch.)
d) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female tries to handle it but cannot, I will step in and defend her.
e) a$$grabbing is unwanted and she is unable to handle it but still wants me to let it go. We have a problem and will be discussing it later but I will temporarily let it go till our discussion.
Did I miss one?
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norcal
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No way of knowing for certain but the poster sure implied that she was wanting help with the situation. You nor I have any clue about what turns on everyone else, there is a perversion out there for everyone and with the internet you can quickly figure out your quirk is not so rare as you would think. So do not discount she likes it. After all we are playing the what if game. Is it my imagination or are you going to the ends of the earth to make certain that a male defending a woman is wrong if it has to be through violence? Or are you just exporing hypothetical situations? If the later here is my breakdown (you probably already know this:
a) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female cannot handle and wants me to.....its handled most likely resulting in a beating, hopefully I will be the winner.
b) a$$grabbing is wanted and female wants me to let it go. It's let go but so am I.
c) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female is handling it, I stay out of (probably laughing in the corner as he rolls around the floor holding his crotch.)
d) a$$grabbing is unwanted and female tries to handle it but cannot, I will step in and defend her.
e) a$$grabbing is unwanted and she is unable to handle it but still wants me to let it go. We have a problem and will be discussing it later but I will temporarily let it go till our discussion.
Did I miss one?
No, don't think you missed one. I find (e) interesting. If you don't think she handled something in a way you see fit there's a problem?
You and I interpreted the original post differently. I did not see any implication from poster that she asked him for help. Nor did I read any implication that she enjoyed it and will even go out on a limb by saying she most likely did not. That's similar to saying he enjoyed watching it happen and that's why he went to the book club meeting. Both points COULD be valid, even though silly and far fetched.
Your imagination must be working over-time because I am not going to the ends of the earth to prove anything, merely throwing in my two cents. Yes, you are correct, I think the only justifiable cause for violence is when someone's life is in immediate danger. Getting your ass grabbed isn't life threatening.
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tookway2much
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Reged: 03/31/08
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Loc: Going toward the light!
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OK, so I THINK mfergal and nish are girls (sorry if you're not!) and HK and mrpat are fellas. If that's the case, so far it's a clear split based on what equipment you're sportin'.
Do you know what happens when you assume?
I'm wondering if your some kind of special breed of girly, since you had to come to forum and ask should I or should I not? Me being a women (let me clarify that for you, so you don't assume with me) would have attempted to put this A-- Hole in his place, the first time, and I promise there would not have been a third time. Because the second time I would have come out pulling an "HK." attitude.
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numbnms
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Did you just choose not to read where I would DISCUSS my problem with it with her? I never said I was right and she was wrong I said I would have a problem with it and would want to talk about why she chooses to let someone grope her. I would respect her wishes to drop it for the time being until we could talk to each other and find out what the other one was thinking. Maybe she knows he had 12 of his college football buddies there and didn't want me to get my A$$ stomped (bless her soul), maybe she had someone video taping it to take to file charges, who knows what her reasons would be but I would defer to her wishes until we could talk about it. But yes at the moment I would have a problem with what I was perceiving to happen.
Silly me wanting to talk to her and let her know my feelings about something.
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norcal
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Reged: 08/24/06
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Chill!
I stand corrected....
your points are valid....
and good for you for being open to accepting and trusting her choices in the moment and discussing later.
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