Ang22007
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Reged: 06/05/07
Posts: 299
Loc: NM
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We are driving to MT as a family to see my parents. 13 months ago I would have never thought it was possible. I had just found out my hubby was having an emotional affair, he was leaving me, in "love" with her, I was completely losing my mind, my home, my job was in shambles. G/F dumped him after I insisted he cancel a trip for them to meet and he loathed me even more. I tried to commit suicide, and scared myself straight. I FINALLY reached out and got counseling, worked on myself. Vented to the great people on here. He asked me back last Father's Day and I just jumped.
We have made improvements, we have had great fun and great lows. It was very hard to come back, it was hard to look at myself and see all the bad that I had done to our marriage. It was hard to find the trust. Still have a ton of issues, but we work on them. I relate divorce to suicide, I had been depressed for a long time and always looked at both as easy outs, until I tried them both.
I tell you all this because I have been where you are. I know your pain, I don't want you to think that I am rah-rah girl. First step in preventing is fix yourself, whatever happens you will be stronger.
Now I am getting off my soap box and going to prep for trip. My parents love my hubby so much and I think the impending divorce last year almost devastated them as much as me, so this trip will be one of our last "healing" times. One of our last "firsts" since then.
Happy trails and best wishes.
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LostWithoutHope
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Reged: 03/31/08
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That is great - I am happy for you. I only wish that my situation could turn out that good. All I long for is another chance to make things work.
I am very happy to hear about folks on here that have had success in putting their marriages back together. It gives those of us that are still trying a tremendous amount of hope!
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SportsCarGuy
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Reged: 07/10/06
Posts: 156
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You are a good friend and glad you posted a brief summary of these events.
Someday, maybe I will have the same type of post to share.
Best wishes to you and keep up the great work in making your relationship work!
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Ang22007
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Reged: 06/05/07
Posts: 299
Loc: NM
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Guy,
You have been a good friend too and I hope that one day you will give us a "lessons learned" post. Just keep on fighting the good fight. You have all kinds of wisdom to tell us.
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Ang22007
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Reged: 06/05/07
Posts: 299
Loc: NM
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Got back today, our last night was spent doing the usual packing of the car and as my dad and hubby worked together to get all the stuff that my mom gleefully was sending home with me, I watched them. Two opposite men on the outwardly, clones on the inside. That my dad respects and loves my hubby has always been a seal of approval, but to see them this time working so easily together. To think all that I would have missed. We didn't have a great drive back, but that night watching the two men I love, I will make sure that happens again and again and again.
It was a great trip and bolstered my spirits.
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