malone
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I’m not asking about your bank balance. I just thought I’d ask to see if anyone else has noticed what I’ve noticed. I’m starting to think I might be twice as rich for my loss of marriage problems AND material things.
I dont have even half the money I once had (divorce is very expensive!), but I only need half as much now anyway.
I now have a house that's less than half the size of my old one but it's twice as easy to live in. I now have a job with half the stress of my old one but I get to see my kids twice as much. I now have an income that's still over half what I earned before, but I have a mortgage that's less than a third of what it used to be. (PHEW!!!)
I have NO stress in my life compared to 8 months ago and I am 100 times happier. I am officially half of the couple people knew me as, but I feel more whole as a person. I guess I have half as many friends as I used to, (divorce splits them too), but I have friends who are twice as caring as old ones, including new friends from the forum.
Not so long ago I felt I had lost everything. Now I’m thinking I might have gained something much more valuable. My life back and overall, it's a better life.
Are you rich too? Maybe you're sitting on 'a goldmine' and you just haven't thought about it! Or maybe it just hasn't happened yet. I hope it does for you all.
Edited by malone (06/25/08 06:22 AM)
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scbeck
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Reged: 12/29/07
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Loc: New Brunswick Canada
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Oh yeah Malone. The day this house finally sells and I get my new one, even though it won't be 1/4 of what this one is, I will be complete again. I will be able to say this is mine alone and I will be proud to be making the payments on my own without having to beg for support. I can't wait.
Christine
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malone
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[quote]Oh yeah Malone. The day this house finally sells and I get my new one, even though it won't be 1/4 of what this one is, I will be complete again. I will be able to say this is mine alone and I will be proud to be making the payments on my own without having to beg for support. I can't wait.
Christine [/quote]
Christine, I can't wait for you to have that pleasure too. And that's what it is. Just like you said, I feel so proud to be able to call my house my own and make my own payments. I'm going to pray that your house sells! You so need that break!
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tookway2much
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Reged: 03/31/08
Posts: 627
Loc: Going toward the light!
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I'm rich and realize it.
Peace of mind is priceless.
It's funny you should ask such a thing. I quite recently was telling someone that "I believe that I am the richest women in the world." Being in my own home has opened the doors for my grown children to come and visit, without being made to feel as though they are a burden.
This is good.
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mrpat
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Hell I'll be poor soon, but I'm the richest I've ever been in my entire life. So much for money being worth anything.
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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First of all, in terms of money I used to deposit the majority of my money into a joint account. My ex managed the bills. She complained when I spent money and I found myself spending money to buy things in order to make myself happy. I don't do that anymore. Like Malone, I have a house that is half the size and half the house payment, plus utilities and such are significantly less. Even with child support I find myself with more money than I had while I was married. Also, I now find myself happy and am developing a new circle of friends.
Rich? Yeah, I think so.
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chatter box
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Reged: 11/09/07
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One thing I learned early on in my divorce is that the way the judges, lawers and laws work you can get blood from a turnip. I was the turnip. Broke, no job and a house under forcloser and no utilities (thanks to the X)I never felt poor. I wouldn't say I was rich either because I didn't get to see my daughter as the orders stated and the divorce drug me down so much. I've always thought of it as a clensing.
I found I could get by with much less material things.
Edited by chatter box (06/25/08 08:15 AM)
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SetterMama
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Reged: 02/24/07
Posts: 809
Loc: Alberta, Canada
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I am by no means rich but at least the money I earn now is MINE and I can spend it in whatever way I please. My ex and I had joint accoutns and they always seemed empty even though we made really good money together. I like knowing where all my money is and knowing that I can choose how I spend it!
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He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. ~ Lau Tzu
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germangirl631
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I am by far richer. I have peace in my house. I can make friends without worry that my stbx will embarrass me in front of them. (friends are priceless) My son and I actually live now, we don't just exist for stbx's pleasure. There are so many things that make me feel rich. It's good to remember those things. And, often.
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MarMcMar
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Reged: 11/06/06
Posts: 1598
Loc: Western New York
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Malone,
Met with a financial planner (make sure they're fee-based!) two nights ago. He looked over all my investments (small amount of money) and my budget and despite some fine tuning, felt I was doing ALL the right things!
Me! Financial f*up that I was. Me! Who never made enough, spent too much on the house and presents. Me! Who wasn't trusted with the check book and wasn't shown the credit card statements.
What a brand new day to know how much money I have, where it is and how it's doing. I am actually living beneath my means and loving it.
So rich? Hell yeah! I'm living like a queen here in Buffalo, NY in my tiny apartment, shopping at Aldi and packing my lunch.
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