From the mouth of babes.... my boys came home this morning after an overnight with their dad, my 4yr old climbed into my lap, gave me a kiss and hug and said "Mommy you are more happy now that you and daddy are apart”. And I said, “yes honey, you’re right.” I asked him if he was okay with daddy and I being apart and he said he was happier too. I’ve come to the realization that divorce, in my case, is in the best interest of my children and me. I would rather my children have two happy parents that live apart from one another, then the two miserable parents that were together.
I'm glad your family is adjusting, that's wonderful. My daughter is four years old too and is adjust much better then I would of ever thought. I think not having tension in the home has been a huge improvement in all of our lives.
That is great! Happier is better. My 16 year old daughter and I went to counseling today and she told me she wished her dad would leave again. We had one of those picture perfect lives (you know what I mean) until he had an affair. I never knew I could fall apart so fast - and now we are trying to repair and it's just not working. I am not who I used to be. My daughter told me today, when he is gone I'm a better person...She is right, the few times we have separated I can feel myself growing strong - but then I can't find a way to not have him come back home, and we cycle all over again. I hope and look forward to the day, my daughter will sit next to me and say something just like what you heard.
That is a great story and a dose of reality I needed to hear as I've been down today, thinking about my own divorce. Even better that the innocence of a child sees your happiness, how sweet.
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