brokenup
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Reged: 05/23/08
Posts: 50
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Just thought I would add my 2 cents. I did the same exact thing about a month ago and posted it on here and felt like I had totally screwed up. Even if I hadn't done the same thing, I would still think that what happened between the 2 of you wasn't at all horrible, but the fact that I did the same thing not too long ago, I totally understand where you are coming from! I really do! Like everyone else said, you are human, and you have wants and needs, and it's only natural that it happened with someone with whom you used to do it with.
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Andrea
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mfergel
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Reged: 02/11/08
Posts: 1468
Loc: Richmond, VA
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I think you only screwed up if it causes you to have feelings for him again. Too many people can't separate the difference between having s3x and making love.
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HardKnox
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Reged: 06/13/07
Posts: 2764
Loc: Wisconsin
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None of us here is qualified to "judge" you for what you've done. There is no "punishment" I know of to fit your "crime". Feeling the need for the touch of another is the essence of humanity.
Forgive yourself and move on.
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
Posts: 3501
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Don't beat yourself up over this. It happened, just make sure not to put yourself in a position where you are vulnerable like that again.
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stoltz
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Reged: 01/29/07
Posts: 1494
Loc: Texas
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Wow. He cheated on you - not once, but twice - and then you had sex with him again?
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emsgirl
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Reged: 11/06/07
Posts: 263
Loc: Illinois
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I am trying not to beat myself up to bad about this, but still feel horrible.
Stolz, I say he cheated twice, and in my eyes I consider it cheating even if sex isn't involved. The two times I caught him "cheating" I know he didn't have sex cause one was on the internet... and little did he know that when he went to meet the girl, well it was me!! (If you want to know the whole story got back and read this post http://www.divorcesupport.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=0&Board=After&Number=156281&fpart=&PHPSESSID=
The second time I caught him I know nothing happened cause it was someone in the EMS field and her and I have become friends now and she told me everything.
However I do know that he had a relationship with someone after we seperated. He swears he used a condom with her at all times. I still made him wear one on Tuesday night though.
Trust me the thougth of someone else having been with him since him and I were last together does scare me.
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Do not make someone a priority when you are only an option to them!
www.myspace.com/emsgirl538
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abbysfv
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Reged: 02/13/08
Posts: 732
Loc: LA, CA
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I'm with you, the thought of my stbx touching me creeps me out big time. He was so mean and strange the last part of our marriage was completely sexless.
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My subconscious is smarter.
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stoltz
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Reged: 01/29/07
Posts: 1494
Loc: Texas
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My bad. I thought cheating was ... well ... cheating. Good to hear you made him wear a condom. My first ex wanted to have sex a few months after our divorce, but I declined. Of course, wanting me to travel 1400 miles and four states away on my dime was a big reason I didn't, but knowing she had cheated on me (and caught an STD in the process) totally turned me off, too.
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NHTom
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Reged: 06/10/08
Posts: 461
Loc: New Hampshire
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Hi EMS,
>I am trying not to beat myself up to bad about this, but still feel horrible.
What would you do/say if some close friend of yours did the same thing? You'd probably say: That was dumb. Just don't do it again and let it go.
Maybe not. What WOULD you say?
We all can tell that you won't make that mistake again. After that, you needn't take yourself so seriously.
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So much to forget...
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emsgirl
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Reged: 11/06/07
Posts: 263
Loc: Illinois
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Yeah well if I too knew that he had caught a STD there is no way in h ell I would have slept with him.
Yes Tom I would be telling my friend the same thing everyone here is telling me.
Thanks again for everyones support.
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Do not make someone a priority when you are only an option to them!
www.myspace.com/emsgirl538
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