mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2638
Loc: Michigan
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I am wondering what the purpose is in life I will find someday.
Wednesday turned out to be the day from hell.
Started out great. Got my morning court requirements in. Had my kids. Went fishing. Checked to make sure nobody went into the "tank" here.
Then the snowball started rolling. Ex-wife wanted the kids for some non-important bbq's on my Sunday, so I told her no.(This did not go over well) Got a call from my mortgage co. She is 120 days late on Monday ..........court action against me pending. Forgot to call my hotline for court app breathalyzers. My very seldom called color was Wednesday..........I missed going. They can now lock me back up from not at all to 1 yr.
I have tried to fly the straight and narrow but somehow find myself in trouble once again for nothing more than getting caught up in life and forgetting to make a phone call.
I really don't want to be locked up again. I'm not a bad person that needs to be locked up. I'm not violent, I care for others, I try to take care of my kids the best I can. I work when I can, I help when I can. What is to be gained by putting me back in jail? I know I have a purpose in life...........I just wish I could find it. I'm by no means in the dumps, just confused and in need of prayers.
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People don't care how much you know.........until they know how much you care.
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
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Can you call them now and get an appointment?
Crossing my fingers that it is not at all to jail.
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2638
Loc: Michigan
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No a miss can't be changed and is treated as a positive test.
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jststartinova
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Reged: 05/28/08
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I'm with Jada - can you call now? It's worth a try rather than to wait and see what might happen next. I'm not sure what your situation is but my daughter (albeit only 16) has been in some trouble - and we are working with the court, juvenile officer, state appointed counselor and anger management counselor to get some charges dropped against her. I find when she messes up or misses something, if she calls to explain we are most always given the benefit of doubt. It's worth a try! Just call!!!
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HardKnox
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Reged: 06/13/07
Posts: 2747
Loc: Wisconsin
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JFC Mr. Pat, am I going to have to start baking you ANOTHER French bread with a file in it? I sure hope not.
I'd pray for you but my condemned prayers would probably result in you being incinerated by a bolt from the blue.
There's gotta be a way out of this......
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PainedPatty
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Reged: 01/28/08
Posts: 677
Loc: Southern California
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OK Pat, this is official...You're the best and life is unfair!! I hope that the first thing you did is call your lawyer. I can't believe they would lock you up again. Let us know if you need any character references or anything else that we can do to help you. Also, have you called the mortgage company? Maybe if they understand your situation they will make some sort of deal with you.
Hang in there little brother, we're all in your corner holding you up.
Patty
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2638
Loc: Michigan
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I try not to let my anger and self-pitty turn to RAGE, but I don't understand what is going on with my life. I try to do right by others thinking that would be enough to carry me through. Sometimes I wonder if my kids wouldn't be better off with someone other than my ex and me. Our mistakes and misfortunes effect them. I don't so much care about myself but damn if my kids don't take the hit all the time. I'm doing the best I can and I still fuk up!
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Every parent fuks up. You think you're the only ones? Hello! The world is full of fuked up people. Trust me. You're not a failure and your kids will pull through. Your kids need to see you persevering, not giving up. It's a valuable lesson for kids to see their parents survive through tough times. It teaches them they can do it, too.
Did you try calling about your test? I wouldn't just resign myself to the fact that I failed that test when I never took it - I just forgot to call!! I would call anyway. At least it shows you're trying to be responsible. You never know when someone will give you a break. by not calling, it appears you don't care. Seriously. Call. It can't hurt the situation, can it?
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2638
Loc: Michigan
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I was told ahead of time that a miss is still not going to be considered anything more than probation violation. No amount of calls or money is going to change that. I do have till the 14th to get my mind set around this and enjoy the time I have with the kids till then.
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jststartinova
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Reged: 05/28/08
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I mentioned above that my daughter has been in some trouble - basically, her ex-boyfriend poured chocolate milk and rice over her head in the lunch room and she assaulted the safety officer trying to get to him. Anger and embarrassment. Assault is assault but it wasn't a punch or anyting, it was flailing arms that got her. Anyway...that was the start of many, many more bad days for her. My husband and I were fighting, he was in and out due to his affair and our terrible way of handling things. Lots of drinking.
My daughter grew to despair and mentioned killing herself. I called in my family for help and we all agreed we needed counseling. My dr. refused to go and broke a bunch of things in my house saying I hated her and wanted her to leave. I called 911 and had her taken in for evaluation.
IMAGINE, my SURPRISE, when after 4 hours in the ER with a psychiatrist I was called in to her room and told this:
"Your daughter is a fine young woman. I believe if you and your husband could get your shit together, she will be just fine....."
Talk about a dose of bad parenting reality. Been there.
Your kids need you - don't think they don't - pull yourself together :) From the sounds of the other posts, your a great person - remember that!
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