Mr.Revenge
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Reged: 04/28/08
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...or am I living in the "Twilight Zone"?
I'll try to be brief:
07/07/07 - I come home to find stbx in bed together (in my marital home) with my "ex" P.O.S. cousin. Slam him to the floor, break his ribs, choke him, and somehow manage to not crush his skull - she keeps kicking me while calling the police - they tell me I have 2 options - leave voluntarily or go to jail (that's not 2 options!!)
For about 2 months (all the while she refuses to take my calls), I (in hindsight) humiliate myself and beg/grovel for her to go to counseling with me and salvage our marriage.
I lost the anger when my brain cells came back to life, and have since lost all feelings, good or bad for her.
So this afternoon, she leaves a 5 minute voice mail (we have spoken just once outside the courtroom in April, and she was heartless) in almost a year. She would like to get together with me to talk about the possibility of a mutual "dismissal" of the divorce she filed.
Sorry, in my book adultery is something that my values see as "permanent" and unrepairable. I will NEVER return her call, and could NEVER touch her again, not even with a 10 foot long "Swiffer".
UNBELIEVABLE!!! Guess the "Honeymoon" with BF has hit some rough times. NO CONTACT, NO HOW, NO WAY, NOT EVER!!! She has been pushing for this divorce for almost 11 months to the tune of pretty much everything I ever worked for and thousands of dollars in legal fees - NOW, she would like to "talk".
One of us is on another "planet", and I really don't think it is me!!!
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malone
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Reged: 12/30/07
Posts: 1937
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Ron
There's no accounting for some people's actions. I don't understand what's happened to your ex. But it sure is hard for you.
There is a point where there's no going back ever. And you reached that ages ago.
I'd say the thing that has just reached your ex is KARMA. She's finally realised what she had. Took a while didn't it? Long enough for you to move on that's for sure and it's good you have.
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Mr.Revenge
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Reged: 04/28/08
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Thanks malone.
I'm just in "shock and disbelief" that she could even think that was a possibility. She turns my life upside down, has her disgusting "fling" for 11 months, and then actually THINKS I would ever be with her again???
Not in this life. NOT EVER!!!
Damn, the insanity!!!!!
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cheeps
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Reged: 09/30/07
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I only hope that this all benefits you and she gets no real money than what she should.
I have never understood how our spouses think we can just 'forget' issues that tore us apart.
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boobaby
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Reged: 05/01/07
Posts: 298
Loc: mass
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Definately sounds like your ex has hit a rough patch with her bf. I'm not sure what advice to give to you other than stand your ground and remain true to your beliefs. I think sometimes our exs find out the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence,in fact a lot of times it is pretty darn brown on the other side. You gave her the chance before to work on the marriage and she refused, so now its her loss.
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2639
Loc: Michigan
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Ron she might be running low on funds for the divorce. Might be the proper time now to turn up the heat to make sure she gets nothing. Worth looking into in my playbook.
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People don't care how much you know.........until they know how much you care.
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abbysfv
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Reged: 02/13/08
Posts: 687
Loc: LA, CA
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OMG, wow that is unbelievable. Some people just don't get it.
That would make me mad too.
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Recovering trusting dufus.
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Mr.Revenge
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Reged: 04/28/08
Posts: 330
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cheeps,
Hope so too.
I never "forget".
boobaby,
I will always remain true to my beliefs.
mrpat,
She has already gotten a lot!!! However, this may be an opportunity for me to get this done sooner and with less financial bleeding.
abbysfv,
Thanks. I'm really not mad, just completely confused.
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tookway2much
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Reged: 03/31/08
Posts: 627
Loc: Going toward the light!
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Perhaps she finally realized that she lost the best thing that could ever happen to her. You deserve so much better.
Leave that pile of dirt in the gutter where she belongs.
Doesn't it feel good to be the rejecter?
Life is good.
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I don't worry about the people in my past. There is a reason they are not in my future.
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Mr.Revenge
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Reged: 04/28/08
Posts: 330
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tw2m,
"In the gutter" she shall stay.
Doesn't feel good to be "rejecter" per se, but I WILL exercise "NO CONTACT" with the person I thought was my partner for life in order to protect my heart from any more bleeding.
Thank you for your post!!!
Ron
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