BritGirl
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Reged: 06/29/08
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I am in a turmoil, I love my husband and he is filing for divorce, he committed adultery, and he is filing and giving that reason, is there any possible way to slow down the proceedings,
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PinkRose
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Reged: 07/09/07
Posts: 1769
Loc: Not sure!!!
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Use the maximum time to complete the discovery process
and if needed ask for an extension. Most states require
some type of mediation prior to trial (at least where I
live does).
Delaying usually means more dollars going to an attorney
though.
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I'm a living sunset... there's light in my bones. You can push me to the edge, but my will is stone!
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afireinside
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Reged: 07/21/08
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I know I am the LAST person to give advice, but my heart does go out to you. I know how you feel. You can contest the divorce, dragging it out, but make sure it is what you really want. If you have not already, I urge you to try a REPUTABLE certified, therapist asap. From a personal mistake, I would only use a Psychiatrist with a PHD. A social worker nearly destroyed my husband, claiming to be a therapist, but that is a different story. Anyway, dragging out the divorce will of course cost ridiculous amounts of money. There are two ways it could go, he could realize he made a tragic error, and come back, or it could just drag out the heartache. The reason I suggest the therapist, is that you really need to search your innerself to find out why you truly want him to stay. Even if he does come home, the trust is gone, and once they cheat, believe me, it is a lot easier to repeat the process. Mine out of nowhere filed for divorce, I really was blindsided as we don't believe in it, and never talked about it. After two months of a horrific court battle he stopped the divorce and returned. Once again, out of nowhere. Now, two years later, the process is about to repeat itself. I wish I had known then, what I have learned through therapy and self discovery. My heart really does feel for you. There is no pain like this, worse to me than the death of my mom and friends. Unless you have been there, you can't even imagine it. I know things will work out for the best for you though as hard as if feels now.
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BritGirl
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Thank you for posting Pinkrose and Afireinside, I know you are both right, and it is going to take money that I do not have.
Things have changed, he has become Nasty, so I dont think there is any going back. I just cant beleive this has happened, I came over from England to be with him, went thru Immigration, even lived on a company truck for the first year, we then rent a home, and only after being off the road for 8 months, he has found someone else, whom he has been having an affair with for 2 years, while I have been playing the good wife. He wont file for divorce, I dont know where he is only that he is in Portland OR somewhere, I am struggling to meet the bills, and the only contact I have with him is thru Emails. We have two dogs, I am wanting to get them thru quarantine, so I can take them home with me, and he knows this, and has said thru emails and text messages that he will pay me support, but still nothing yet. I just dont know what to do?
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