ALittleLost
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Please tell me. Im sitting here with tears streaming down my face, drinking another screwdriver. I need to know. Is there really life after divorce? We've been married 22 years, husband just retired from 22 years in the Marine Corps, teenage son and daughter. Found out right before christmas that he's been cheating on me with someone at work (this happened before - 10 years ago). Long story short- our whole marriage it's been the same old thing. I need more love (ie, hugs, kisses, "I love you's") and he needs more sex. I'm finally done (or at least easing out of) the raising kids, so I'm throwing myself into the sex. And it's good - actually it's great. But where is the love? Is this all that I'm ever going to get? Is it enough? I just don't know. We just finished having great sex, and he rolled over and went to sleep. I know it's late and he has to get up early (4:30) but, really, is this it? Please, guys, tell me? Before I make myself another drink.
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melanie14
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I think you know in your heart what you want. Life after divorce is what you make of it. Sounds like you are just a slab of meat if you ask me. What the hell is wrong with him? and go ahead, make another drink if you want...
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PinkRose
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Good advice Melanie - hey I will have a drink for the
both of you!!! Darn morning is going to roll around early!!
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I'm a living sunset... there's light in my bones. You can push me to the edge, but my will is stone!
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ALittleLost
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thanx, melanie. i think i will make another drink. and i'll have one for you guys too.
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melanie14
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right there with you!
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ALittleLost
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hi pinkrose! wat are you guys all doing up so late! I thought i was the only loser crying in her vodka tonight while the hubby sleeps.
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PinkRose
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It is time for me to go to bed, 5:00 am will roll around
early.
Good luck to you. I am drinking a glass of wine for you!!
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I'm a living sunset... there's light in my bones. You can push me to the edge, but my will is stone!
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phyzguy
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Reged: 05/15/08
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Loc: Cali
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There IS supposed to be SO MUCH MORE. Friendship, laughs, joys, sadness.
But please, don't drown your sorrows in alcohol. I don't want you to develop a problem that just augments the situation you are in.
Have you asked him to go to counseling?
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Peace comes from simply knowing you will find the answer
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ALittleLost
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thanx for being here anyways. i needed to 'hear' another voice. gnite.
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ALittleLost
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hi phyz, i think this may just be all he has to give. i don't know. i love him so much, and i keep trying to tell myself its enuf. but is it? and, yes, we've tried a couple of counselors. but, you know how that goes. folks who find one that is a good fit are the lucky (ie rare) ones. and he's not a talker. so i think that going to a counselor just stresses him more.
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