There are a couple of books that I'd suggest looking at the will help explain to you her needs (as well as yours). I'd say read them together. One is called "Divorce Busting", the other is the "Five Languages of Love". Remember though, the goal isn't to be the person she wants you to be. The goal is to be the person you want to be. Change for yourself. She needs to do the same.
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Ang - you are right and I know it. Easier said than done.....I have so many questions and I'm a pretty black and white lady - if it doesn't make sense, investigate...
In order to better understand the needs of your spouse so you can aim to meet them, you should read "His Needs, Her Needs". It is an incredible book that I wish I had read before my wife moved out and gave me divorce papers. I truly believe that this could have (and may still) save my marriage.
I am reading that book along with dozens of the other books... I wish I had spent more time improving myself and my marriage relationship before now - I wouldn't be separated if I had... Now that I have the free time (when I don't have my daughter or she is sleeping) All I have been doing is reading good books.
STBXW moved out this weekend into her new house. Did not hear from her all weekend. then she called me several times today complaining that she misses her daughter and wants to see her more. I snapped back that she has more time than I do and she is the one who wanted this separation/divorce, not me - I want my family back together. She basically said we should have never been married and she will never get over the pain of our marriage (claiming that I did not love her as much As I should have). I was on autopilot and did not realize what I had until it is too late. I love her and want her back - but she will probably not let me back into her life other than friends for the sake of our daughter.
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