malone
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Reged: 12/30/07
Posts: 1855
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Hey doofus!
You don't have a problem with the people out here either! And you know us. We're more than happy to bother you until you get that phone call sorted, stay out of jail and keep on hanging out with all of us.
:)
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2617
Loc: Michigan
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Damn Mo, your so sweet and all with the pet names(Doofus). If you lived closer I'd take you to jail with me.........LOL.
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People don't care how much you know.........until they know how much you care.
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PainedPatty
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Reged: 01/28/08
Posts: 663
Loc: Southern California
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Pat, I am so pleased that you somehow have kept your sense of humor thru all this sh!t!! I have a very strong feeling that this is going to turn out ok for you (and for us too!) as long as you do stay PROACTIVE. And if you do have to go back, we'll just bombard the place with so much mail for you that they will have to release you immediately to keep their system from clogging up.
Keep the ole chin up,
Patty
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2617
Loc: Michigan
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Need some more parenting help. Received this email about an hour ago and still trying to get my head around it.
*****
I have a bbq on fri @ 2 @ one of my customers house can the kids come for fireworks,fishing w/ me on bogie lake and I'll bring them back after?
We are going up north w/ my aunt pat and uncle paul to go canoeing and fishing on wed the 9th in the afternoon and coming back on monday late afternoon sometime.*****
Friday is my holiday as I let her "Disney" my last holiday with my kids and being a good dad I let them go.
The canoeing and fishing!!!!!!!!!!!!! She scheduled for my weekend with the kids. Not to mention she didn't ask...........just DEMANDED! We are full 50/50 custody and I find my time to be with my kids to be very important.
ALSO, why would you take the kids away somewhere that is going to cost money when you haven't paid MY mortgage in 4 months.
I gave her the divorce she wanted so she could be with the other man. When does she start to leave me alone? I have moved on in life and just want what is mine from this ..........my time with my kids not being interrupted and not telling my kids what they're gonna miss by being with me because she can't seem to schedule sh!t on her time not mine.
Some of you folks know me. I’m not a bad man that deserves this. When does she start acting like a divorced parent and not a child ? I want my kids to have a fun and fulfilling life ……..but damn when will she stop this sh!t! Everything I schedule with my kids I do on my time and never bother her on her time. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!
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People don't care how much you know.........until they know how much you care.
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PainedPatty
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Reged: 01/28/08
Posts: 663
Loc: Southern California
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Pat, it's time for another phone call to your divorce attorney. I'm sure that she is violating some of the custody and visitation orders. Also, she really needs a good verbal slap upside the head if she thinks that she can just forget to pay the mortgage, but then take the kids on trips that she does pay for. I agree with your description of her as a child, worse, she is a seriously spoiled brat!!! Stand up for your rights, man. She is seriously violating them!
Patty
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mrpat
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Reged: 09/12/07
Posts: 2617
Loc: Michigan
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Patty unfortunately if I involve lawyers and courts I will only be hurting her financially and the children 1/2 the time. So............I think it's better for me to take the hit and grin and bare it. I didn't ask for this but neither did my kids. I just wish she would grow up. I can't help her get there because I'm the DEVIL
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People don't care how much you know.........until they know how much you care.
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CityGirl
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Reged: 06/11/08
Posts: 180
Loc: Texas
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Unfortunately, some people don't ever seem to grow up. But, just keep doing the right thing, encourage her to only schedule things on her time, and you be the bigger better person. Your kids will appreciate it later on, believe me. And you're NOT the devil. I was married before, a long time ago, and that title is already taken!
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Hurley
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Reged: 06/30/08
Posts: 14
Loc: Georgia
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Mr. Pat:
I don't know you, but read your thread....I hope you won't mind if I tell you what I think.... :-)
I too, have kids with an ex....and over the years we went through stuff like him not paying child support (at all!)
At first he was all about his parents taking the kids, and then taking them to movies and etc...really made me feel like an idiot, because I could not afford to do that. I was lucky to afford shoes for them at the time....my son was treated like the golden child...then one day my kids grew up and realized that he actually other than a few movies and action figures (don't ask)(LOL) never spent any time with them....one day my son told me thank you for always being there for him. I know that you are hurting right now...and I gather some other not so nice things are happening...but if you have done all that you can....just be there for your kids when they need you...let them know every second you can that you love them...that is the really important stuff. The rest won't even matter one day when they are grown up...they WILL remember the love that you gave them. My kids do not have have a relationship with that side of their family...I didn't do do anything...they finally figured it out for themselves. I know sort of how you feel as I am going through another divorce....it is hard to have faith in anyone, or believe that there is good in the world...but there are a few of us people out here that still consider ourselves remarkably strong, unique, smart and hopeful. Hope....that is the one thing that I have to remind myself of too. I hope so much that your heart is eased.
Look after yourself!
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There's no present. There's only the immediate future and the recent past~George Carlin
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Jada
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Reged: 06/02/07
Posts: 3219
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[quote]Patty unfortunately if I involve lawyers and courts I will only be hurting her financially and the children 1/2 the time. So............I think it's better for me to take the hit and grin and bare it. I didn't ask for this but neither did my kids. I just wish she would grow up. I can't help her get there because I'm the DEVIL [/quote]
Are you paying alimony? If so, I would go back to court and ask that rather than pay her directly, you pay the money directly to the mortgage company. This way, you may be able to salvage something. Of course, there is no guarantee that a court will order that.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
Posts: 3098
Loc: Colorado
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Dude, you need some boundaries. If you really think it is in the kids best interests for her to trump your parenting time, at least insist it include a like exchange for some of her parenting time.
Edited by KGrow (06/30/08 11:55 PM)
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