I moved out of state w/my Husband for his career 3 yrs. ago, my ex flipped, hired an atty..I did not want to put my child through a nasty battle, so I gave him Primary and I modified the visitation for out of state. We moved back a year ago, my daughter imm. asked to come back to living w/ me. After filing the modification it became clear that the judge was not going to do that. I am now going to ask for Joint. I would have her every school break (spring, fall, 4 days weekends), every other weekend and the entire summer with my ex having her every other weekend during the summer. It ends up being more like a 60/40 split. My arguement is centered around the fact that she has 5 yr.old twin sisters w/her dad and 23 mos.old triplet siblings w/her mom, I'm a stay at home mom, she has a new..er step dad (we married up North) that there are benefits to this arrangement and that it allows Mia to have the best of both. My mediation appt. is at the end of this month? Do you all think it is poss. to get this set up?
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You are asking for reasonable things, but the only change in circumstance is you. You have now moved 2x in 3 years. A judge (and your ex) is going to hear what you want and what your daughter wants, but I would expect someone to ask you about your plans for the next 3 years - another 2 moves??
Custody is changed when circumstances change. You came back and immediately filed to take over what you gave up three years ago. I am guessing that you will not get 60/40 but closer to a normal NCP schedule of EOW. Sorry - just my view.