lisak
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My boyfriend has a 5 year old daughter. Out of the month of June his ex-wife had the little girl for all of 5 nights. He doesn't mind but do you think it's healthy for the little girl to spend so little time with mom? I DO NOT give him advice or opinions on this matter but was curious to what others think. The mom is not necessarily a bad mom. No drugs or anything. She's just making up for lost time she claims. She said she did it alone for the first 5 years because dad worked 7 days a week and now it's her turn.
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chatter box
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My personal thought is if no drugs, no drinking problems, no one has mental problems and the distance is close enough then it should be 50/50 visits. A kid that young needs shorter visits more often. You can't force it though.
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germangirl631
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Unfortunately, not all parents think about what's healthy for their children. Some can be self-absorbed. If this mother isn't in a frame of mind to "mother" more than 5 nights in a month, it probably wouldn't be healthy for the child to be with her more than that. If only all parents could act responsibly with their children. What a better place this world would be.
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lisak
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the distance is only a mile. It's sad to me. My ex and I have been doing 50/50 for 5 years. We both manage to see our son daily. I admit my situation is unique but I can't imagine it any other way.
When he tries to force the issue with her it makes for a huge arguement. Thanks
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SFLLADY
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My X has ample visitation, and the children haven't seen him in 3 months and he lives 2 miles away w/ gf, her mother and her 2 kids from a past relationship. So, I've gotten over what people will do and refuse to do. When it all comes down to it..whatever they chose can either hinder or hurt. I choose not to let his absence hurt the children too deeply by spending time w/ them in other venues.
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theanswerguy
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Many NCPs get less than 5 nights/month . MY first ex was willingly only taking the kids 2 nights/month for almost a year . It happens .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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lisak
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the mother in this case is not the NCP. She also receive's a huge amount of support weekly.
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