Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
Went to the lawyer on Friday. He said, he would go for a 60/40 split and alimony till retirment. May or may not get that but you start at the top. Being my husband was all for me quitting my full time job back in 11/2000, making 50k plus benifits and now I work 36 hours for a dr's office with zero benifit. He has fully supported this lifestyle. On the other hand I as a person who would give anything to get that special job, and say I don't need you!! I send resumes out every day. Thank you all for your help and may GOD bless you.
Wow, that story could be mine. But I also was in China and when I came home my interpretor continued helping my husband who stayed behind. He lied to me for 1 1/2 years about her. And in the end fathered a child with her. All this after 25 years of marriage. I took care of his home, our three daughters and everything on the home front. Just so he could try this great job opportunity. So my divorce isn't final yet. We live in New York state. But I know you are entitled to 1/2 of any marital asset. Including his retirement. So hang onto that. And in NY you could receive maintenance payments. Especially when your incomes are far apart. So, look into this. He will have to take care of his children (by law). Also get a good attorney. My soon to be ex and I are on good terms but the attorneys will put you up against one another. That is their job.
Anyone who has had the misfortune of being on the receiving end of an unfaithful spouse, please go to the doctores!!! I went yesturday and I may have contracted HPV from my stbx. I had the whole array of test done and I will know for sure in about a week. Please go. I was to embarrassed and I waited.