juliacinaz
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Reged: 02/03/08
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Well it is official. I have sunk to the bottom of the tank. My daughter went to her dad's and I am lost. I had all these plans for my time off and all I have done is cry.
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malone
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Reged: 12/30/07
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You are not alone. I hit one of my big triggers for feeling really bad a couple of days ago and have succumbed to the feeling since. Have a read of my snakes and ladders post. Maybe it will help. I will need to keep rereading it myself. :-(
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NHTom
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Reged: 06/10/08
Posts: 400
Loc: New Hampshire
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Yup. That sounds about right.
Your psyche is telling you something. You've been whacked hard. Now you need to put yourself back together. Your psyche knows what to do and you're doing it.
If you need to cry then, for heaven's sake, let it out. You will be better for it. Self-pity, sad songs, any feeling needs to be indulged. Denial won't help. It thoroughly stinks! Crying is very likely the most constructive thing you can do now.
Blessings, and may peace follow. You're not alone.
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So much to forget...
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NHTom
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Loc: New Hampshire
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Please forgive my callusness.
She was here for 6 (!) hours today packing boxes. As she drove down the driveway I fell apart. I never knew one could actually convulse with sobs.
The best thing about that is when it stops. Not so's that you'd feel better, but because it's so painful in the middle of it.
I'm sorry you hurt.
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So much to forget...
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juliacinaz
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(((((NHTOM))))) I am so sorry you are hurting too! Yes the sobbing is just awful. I have cried so much I fear I have no tears left. Somebody throw a rope into this tank???
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juliacinaz
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Thanks I read the post...when my daughter leaves it triggers me. I guess she is my ace in the hole. The one I always have when everything else turns to crap.
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NHTom
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Reged: 06/10/08
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Loc: New Hampshire
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Thank-you Julia. ( ( ( Julia ) ) ) (gentle hug)
Here's a hand. Come climb out of the tank.
Love, peace and understaning for you.
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So much to forget...
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scbeck
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Reged: 12/29/07
Posts: 848
Loc: New Brunswick Canada
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You are not alone Julia. My stbx took our daughter this morning too for a month and I have been lost all day. I am a basket case and I think getting some cyber hugs from friends here is the only thing keeping me from going to bed and staying there a month. Heres a (((hug))) for you.
Christine
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This is the first day of the rest of my life. Or maybe tomorrow will be.
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NHTom
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Loc: New Hampshire
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And a gentle hug for you - ( ( ( Christine ) ) )
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So much to forget...
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juliacinaz
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Christine,
I read your post and I am so sorry. I think he is trying to make you crazy with his antics. I would not be able to handle what you are going through. My ex only took our daughter once and did not return her at the agreed time. He has not done anything too bad since. I can barely stand it when she is gone. She is the reason for my latest heartbreak. He (the BF)disliked her so much...he really disliked how much I need her and love her. How much I enjoy being with her. It is so sad...
Don't let him know how upset you are. If you pretend not to care he has lost his power over you. Easier said than done I know.
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